It felt like a switch overnight and now I feel completely erased
I’m really struggling and hoping to hear from people who understand what it’s like being close to someone with bipolar type 2.
I met an M in person and the connection was intense from the start. After that, we stayed long-distance for almost a year, talking every single day. We became really reliant on each other’s validation. He told me over and over how special I am to him, how much I mean to him, and how much I’ve impacted his life. He would even say he could see himself marrying me. At the same time, he also said he isn’t ready for a relationship, which confused me but I tried to accept. He also showered me with gifts, which made everything feel even more real.
He came to visit me, and everything felt real and aligned, like what we had built was actually something. He even left me with love letters.
Then he left… and it felt like a switch flipped overnight.
His messages became slower, colder, and now I barely hear from him. When he does reply, it’s “I’m busy” or “I’ll call later,” but the calls never happen.
I’ve started reciprocating his energy and pulling back too, but now I’m scared that might be pushing him even further away. I don’t know if I should be softer or kinder, but I feel like I already have been. I’ve only been loving toward him.
Now I just feel like I’ve faded out of his life completely. Like I went from being someone important to nothing. A burden. A ghost. I feel really hurt and honestly abandoned.
I’m not trying to label anything, I just don’t understand how something so intense can disappear like this.
Has anyone experienced this with someone with bipolar? Do they come back after pulling away like this, or is this just how it ends?
I feel lost and don’t know what to do.