u/Jealous-Garlic9775

Okay so to start it off, I’m (20F) and I met my boyfriend may of 2025 thru an online app (yubo) I’ve only been on that app to connect with friends and before this I’ve never been in a serious relationship (only talking stages) that never went to far due to me ghosting them or just us separating, I started texting my boyfriend from may 2025-July 2025 that’s when we met, at the time I was 19 & he was 23, I’m g going to be honest but in the beginning my sister was fine with him until she learned his age, in my opinion a 4 year difference isn’t bad at all, we’re both adults at the end of the day, but other than that my sister was fine with him, then out of nowhere my sister switched up on me and told me how I’m weird for being into him because of his age n vise versa, then she also told most of my family, her bf, her friends, even her co workers about our age difference and trying to make them get on her side on how they think he’s “weird”, anywho after talking with my boyfriend for a longer period of time and him meeting most of my family & friends they all ended up liking him but my sister. Fast forward I started having sex (he was my first sexual partner & first kiss) I never noticed anything up until November 2025, we first started having protected sex in September 2025, I started to notice blisters and other symptoms of hsv on my genitalia, so I gotten tested and the doctor said themselves “yea this is herpes” which is very unprofessional, after I got my results I seen him and I told him that he gave me herpes, from the results it was hsv-1 mouth to genitalia, he claimed that he never knew that he had herpes & gotten tested by blood and swab even though he had & never had any sort of blisters ever and I’ve never seen anything on his mouth or genitalia, once I gotten the medication I admitted to my mom because I felt alone and my mom was on my side the whole time, I had my medication hidden in my dresser and I would sneakily take it because I shared a room with my sister, i hung out with my boyfriend and when I came back home my sister said “you have herpes”. So I just admitted it and said “yes I was diagnosed with herpes”. Then she started to say nasty things about me and my boyfriend and his family just overall being hateful. This broke my heart because when she first found my medication she told my mom but she told her to tell me, and till this day she shoves it in my face saying “you can’t have kids, I’m stupid for being with him, telling me to tell my friends so they can tell me to leave him, and shaming him”, I personally don’t think that I should tell my friends because not only for his reputation, because it’s truly not their business just like it wasn’t hers but she still wanted to be nosy and go through my things. Even before I found out I had herpes my sister would still bash me calling me weird, stupid, and even at one point a bitch. I’m honestly tired of her because every time I’m around her I can feel her hatred towards me, I’m used to it now and I don’t let it bother me but even my friends question me on “why my sister is like this”? Be 100% honest with me about this situation because I truly don’t have anyone else to talk about this too.