I was betrayed, discarded and left out in the cold in the worst way possible after tolerating months of emotional, verbal, and mental abuse, and I am not proud to say it, but I slapped my DA during the break-up. I've never been like this. I couldn't recognise myself anymore. I even told him that he did not deserve any love, and that cut him deep. I know it would hurt him, but I said it anyway because I was so spiritually broken by the time we broke up.
All I wanted was accountability, an explanation for the betrayal, some empathy, maybe respect. He showed the exchanges where he was ganging up on me & allowing outsiders to berate me, said his ex was better than me, then quickly got up and walked away.
I always thought I was an anxious attachment, but it turned out that I was secure and only pushed into that level of anxiety, lost so much weight by the DA.