No saving this
I’m at my wits end.
My bf of 15 years lies about everything, has disgusting table manners, and thinks my money is our money.
He wasn’t always like this. I don’t think he was. I’ve been supporting us for 15 years. I funded a business we both worked at. It made money but we used that to live. The money we have (almost all in my name only) is what I had before we got together.
He just turned 62 and is getting social security, so I feel like this is my opportunity to get out. I feel so guilty. He doesn’t know I know about the lies and doesn’t know I want to leave.
He says he retired from the army when I know he did 8 years, just like me. He relates conversations I know didn’t happen. He tells other people’s stories as his own, including mine. He started smoking again 7 year ago and I’ve been pretending I don’t know.
I have a master’s degree and a decent amount of money. I worked for it. And I inherited some. But he brags about his business sense and how he built our wealth. Looks down on people with less.
He chews with his mouth open and talks with food in his mouth. He coughs into the phone and into my face. He’s feral. And once in a while he loses control of his bowels and poops on the floor.
I know this isn’t my responsibility. Why do I feel so guilty?