Throwaway account. I (29M) just started dating my girlfriend (26F) about 3 weeks ago , we knew each other for 3 weeks before that. We discovered after 1 week of talking that her sister is married to someone I went to University with, classmates to be precise. She recently had to travel to help her older sister around cause she was sick and had been in the hospital a while.
We're long distance but I planned to meet her and celebrate her birthday with her in about 2 weeks. I was planning to move to a new country before we started talking, and this meetup is realistically the only time we might get to meet before I'm a whole continent and thousands of miles away, so I was really looking forward to it (thought she did too) . I had spent spent alot on the immigration already and still more to come. She knows all these
We talk alot every single day and I always ask how her sister is doing ad when she could be discharged every time we're on call. We talk about literally everything going on with us both Everytime on call.
Now, I noticed for about 3 days now she has been a lot withdrawn and we now have flat conversations and barely talked within those 3 days.
She finally sent a voice note last night telling me - "she just realized I've only been looking forward to us meeting up, and I'm not focused on the present (ive only mentioned this a couple of times btw, and certainly not everyday) She also claims that 2 of her friends who have platonic relationships with her had offered to help with her sister's hospital bills monetarily, and while she's not trying to compare or trying to be ungrateful, how come someone she's in a relationship with had not offered to help out her sister and her husband with the hospital bills. And while I ask about her sister's health everytime, and try to show I care in my own way, she doesn't feel I did enough, solely because I didn't offer financial support for them"
AITAH for not offering to help her sister out??