Background: I have had a close friendship with a former coworker for over 20 years. We're both grown women with families of our own.
Recently the conversations with my friend have been very one sided. She'll only call to complain about something her husband, kids, step-kid, mother-in-law and her partner, or her parents have said or done. She's had some health issues lately so I have tried to give her support and help with that. I have been ill for quite a while so had some experience with some of the same medications so it is easier for me to understand than others in her orbit. I've noticed that a significant amount of times when she calls she is drunk.
I have also been quite ill lately and tried telling her three times in writing and a few times on calls just how ill I am. She didn't listen or seem to care. She still hasn't asked me how I am or what is wrong with me.
Yesterday she called my house and spoke to my husband, who told her I was sleeping. She asked my husband if I wasn't doing well right now and was told that no, I am not. She did not ask what was wrong. She has not reached out to ask me myself.
Yesterday she stalker called my oldest child, who she's never called before. My child messaged her back immediately asking if she was okay because they haven't even seen each other in 13 years and she has never once voice called her and not messaged her in over a decade. She continued to stalker call my child until my child gave up and answered. She's so concerned about her "best friend" and got the same information as she had already been given earlier that I am weak, tired and need major surgery.
My child didn't give her any other information. For someone that hasn't even asked me what's going on she went off on my child about whether I was safe on my own. I haven't been on my own my husband and youngest child have been with me constantly since my last trip to the hospital. My oldest child informed my friend that my child also lives very close to me and can be at mine in less than 5 minutes and that my child has mom's back. My child has taken me to numerous appointments as a way to support me. Awesome kid.
Then it got insane. My friend had been to an event with her husband. She started talking to my child like she has been to me. How she has to work from home because of her illness, all the drama with her two grown children and now her worry over her favorite person who hasn't been in the group chat. (2 memes and a happy birthday to someone's kid).
She then went on to say how she's a cradle robber because her husband is younger than her and it got creepy about sexual stuff and gave my child the ick. She was so proud of herself about the cradle robber thing she mentioned it more than once and my child was disgusted.
She complained to my child that my husband said I was sleeping. I'm sick. I sleep alot. Sick people do that. My child told her that.
She then went on to tell my child that she will always be there for them. This really upset my child because my friend has consistently not been there to support my child or even sent a message of support in over a decade.
She basically did the me me me drama I had been getting for over a year and tried to make my child a replacement for me because she didn't get to whine to me herself. She was probably drunk. Drinking is why she's still so sick and needs to work from home.
She still doesn't even know what's wrong with me. She's never asked. My child would have told her to ask me if she had actually asked.
AIO to think that my "friend" severely crossed boundaries by discussing all of her personal and sex life with my child and pretending like I matter so much to her when she obviously only cares about herself?