Hindi na alam gagawin sa sarili dahil sa ginagawa ng Fiancé ko sakin.
Problem/Goal: my Fiancé has been cheating on me.
Context: I’m a 30M and my partner is 28F. May anak na kami, and honestly, hindi ko akalain na aabot ako sa point na ganito.
Dito nagsimula lahat — she decided to work abroad, and I supported her 100%. Tinulungan ko siya sa papers, sinamahan sa proseso, hanggang sa makaalis siya ng Pilipinas. First time namin mag-LDR, pero at first okay naman. Smooth, walang issues.
After a few months, pinayagan siyang mag vacation back home. That time, I thought everything was perfect, so I decided to propose. She said yes.
But a few days after that… I checked her phone and found out she was cheating on me.
I was furious. Gusto ko na sana umalis, tapusin lahat. Pero she begged, cried, asked for forgiveness. Dahil mahal ko siya, pinatawad ko.
Before siya bumalik abroad, nag-usap kami. She promised na hindi na mauulit. So when she left again, I chose to trust her. Minahal ko siya the same way, like nothing happened.
Then after 7 months… nalaman ko na she’s still talking to the same guy.
That broke me completely.
Again, she begged, cried, asked for another chance. And again… pinatawad ko. Maybe because may anak kami. Maybe because mahal ko pa rin siya.
But now, I can honestly say I’m not okay anymore.
I feel broken. Konting bagay lang, nag-ooverthink na ako. Minsan bigla na lang pumapasok sa isip ko lahat ng nangyari. Hindi ko na alam kung paano ibalik yung tiwala, or kung kaya pa ba.
I don’t even know why I’m posting this. Maybe I just needed to get it off my chest.
Has anyone been through something like this? How did you deal with it?
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