Realisations around how dysfunctional this was . Overlooked so many red flags
Things are starting to line up in my mind. I could never understand some of the stuff but here’s some things that I’ve realised since she discarded me 9 days ago
* I saw a photo the week before we met with her son and ex . Her ex looked physically ill on the image . I’ve seen a recent photo and he looks ten years younger
* she told me her ex changed the house locks numerous times to keep her out. Naively I thought who does this? Looking back I imagine she disappeared for weeks and then turned back up . I can probably expect her to return based on this knowledge
* her ex was abusive. Now I’m abusive. Common theme
* she told me she used to sleep around and avoided any emotional investment. I can now deduce this was deliberate as she fucked every more than surface level relationship up
* she said she’d only been in one serious long term relationship. However looking on her Facebook I could deduce one that lasted 5 years before that. ‘Oh we were just friends , we weren’t intimate (aged 14 to 19) lol
* on one of his posts he said ‘ I don’t care what people say about you, your a nice person’ . Clearly her issues were around in her younger days
* she said to me she is like ‘marmite’ you either love her or hate her. Well I can safely say I now hate the bastard
* all the manipulations, tests, triangulations are now out in the open . She has been secretly working against me the entire relationship . ‘My ex wants me back, he’s desperate’, ‘this guy complimented me’, ‘ a man paid our food bill in McDonalds’, ‘ this guy was hanging around outside my house’ . Apparently because I raised issues and said I didn’t trust her I’m insecure
* said she used to think she was bisexual but now ‘loves cock’. I mean who says this to her boyfriend . Said her gay friend has a foot fetish so she lets her play with her feet
Just typing this out is a mindfuck.
7!days no contact now. Should I expect her to be back ? Luckily I don’t need to change any locks as she doesn’t have any keys for my house
My heads a fucking mess . I know she is posting and flaunting her single status, a mutual friend kindly let me know