AITA For Not Watching My Friends Videos
Disclaimer; I read these more than I write them.
I (25f) have a friend (25f) that I met at work and have known for about three years now. We got close fairly quick, and have been through a lot together despite not knowing each other horribly long. The entire time we have communicated outside of work has been through Snapchat. This is where the trouble starts.
Within the last like year I’d say, my friend started sending videos. Like just videos of herself talking. Mostly ranting about something, like work or her mom, etc. I don’t mind her venting to me, she’s let me vent to her plenty, but my problem is I have trouble following what’s going on in the videos. She’ll go on about one thing for so long I zone out, then next thing I know she’s talking about something else. I lose track of what the main subject was meant to be. What I’m meant to respond to. She sends these videos every day, sometimes multiple times a day.
And, this is probably just my pet peeve, but she has it set to infinity loop on snap so you have to click through each ten second interval. So it’ll send me 40 individual messages and has my phone blowing up which stresses me out. She sends them when I’m at work and knows I can’t watch and then when I say I can’t watch she says “just watch later” but by then it’s no longer relevant.
I also just don’t have much time to sit and click through 50-100 10 second clips of her hating on her boss. I’m a single mom to a three year old, I try not to be on my phone around her, I have to cook and clean and play. By the time I do get time, I’m tired and just want to decompress. Not listen to a rant.
But I feel like I’m an asshole if I DONT watch her rant videos because I’m not letting her vent to me. She’s been there for me, I feel like I’m being a bad friend by not watching her videos.
I hope this makes sense. I need an outsider perspective. Thanks 🥲