Being as a back up plan is hard in Arrange Marriage set up
Hi 30 M, met this girl 29F in arrange marriage set up. We both have talked to few other people in this set up but when it came to us we kicked off instantly and both sides parents are okay from start. But recently I found girls side parents and girl too are searching for other matches where as I stopped I stopped searching.
The girls talks to me daily maintaining the same vibe we had initially it’s like everything is okay and we’LL get married. But the thought of they still searching making me realise I’m just an option and can be ditched any time once they found better.
I’m not really sure what to do now I liked this girl and once I got to know they are searching more and I’m losing my interest in just keeping the conversation going now a days. What should I do? Should I just say no to them since I didn’t like the thought the searching again even after saying yes to our family. Is this normal in arrange family. My parents don’t know any of this tricks in arrange marriage most of our family members ended up in doing love marriages so the process itself is new for my parents.
I’m clueless should I continue or just drop of and start searching for others since I’m no longer confident on her and her family members.