I'm 45, 2 years since my wife dumped me, happy in all areas of life except this - I am so livid
We were a really happy couple. We travelled to Australia for 5 weeks together, and then separately did four weeks in Vietnam. I remember long 10-hour drives a few of the days where we’d just talk the whole time, making up stupid games and enjoying being around each other. Then we got married and had kids.
Over time, we lost touch a bit. Life got busy and quite hard — we were tired, I lost my job, and things just built up. Two years ago, instead of working through it together, she decided to end it.
What’s been difficult for me is that it felt quite sudden from my side. I think she’d probably been processing and grieving the relationship for a long time before that, but I didn’t see it that way at the time. I struggled to get any real conversation or closure afterwards, which made it harder to come to terms with.
The last couple of years have actually been good in a lot of ways — work is going really well, I’ve met some great people, and I’ve found a rhythm with the kids that I really value.
But if I’m honest, there’s still some anger there, especially seeing her move on to a new relationship. I’m working through it with a therapist, but it’s something I’m still trying to let go of.