I’m 21F, he’s 24M. We split EVERYTHING 50/50 — gym, food, eating out, all of it.
But here’s the part that’s making me feel stupid…
I cook all his meals, pack his lunches, wash his clothes, and clean up after him (he literally leaves floss and trash on the ground). I basically take care of him like a wife. He works (engineer), comes home, and maybe does dishes twice a week. We don’t go on dates. Ever. If we go out, it’s either split or we take turns. He has never just taken me out and treated me. Even with the gym — I literally sent him money to cover my part, and he asked me, “Is this for April or what month is this for?” So I had to send MORE money for the current month. Meanwhile, he’s always talking about “my check hit” and how much money he made that week… but can’t even cover his girlfriend’s gym membership? That just feels off to me. The breaking point was when we went to Sephora. He told me “get whatever you want.” I wasn’t trying to take advantage, I literally told him I just wanted a lip gloss. Like a $12 lip gloss. That’s it. At checkout, he buys himself a $230 cologne, puts everything on one receipt, and then immediately calculates EXACTLY what I owe him down to the cents and tells me I owe him $122.27. I paid him right then and there because I was honestly embarrassed. But the whole thing just felt… wrong. Like damn, you couldn’t even get me a $12 lip gloss after telling me to pick something? He always says “I’ll buy you whatever you want,” but never actually does. At this point it feels like he’s just saying it to sound good. After that, I canceled my nail appointment right in front of him because I had just spent my money paying him back. Mind you he’ll be like you need to get your nails done they took bad but yet never has paid for them, he just says go get them done. He got mad and called me materialistic.That really upset me because I do EVERYTHING for him out of love. I told him straight up if this is how he is now, is he going to split diapers 50/50 too? At this point it’s not even about money. It’s about effort and feeling appreciated. I feel like a maid/roommate, not a girlfriend. Idk how to feel….am I being taken advantage of? Also… going forward, should I just start asking for separate checks every time? I don’t even know what to do anymore, I’m just really annoyed.