currently committed to Emory and have a deposit extension at UM to give me more time to decide. Turned down my final schools, Brown and UF, yesterday as well.
Ugh, I wish I could go to all of them if only I had infinite time and money but wtv good luck to everyone on the waitlists!
I can't justify 60-100k in loans when I am not sure about my career path and when none of the paths I am considering need the ivy league name.
so basically atp I am committed to yale as of rn and plan to take out around 25k a year in loans.
I just don't know if I can really turn down emory for 15k a year (half tuition scholarship) or UM for 5k a year (full tuition scholarship) + UM is close to home so no travel expenses.
all my friends can comfortably commit to their dream ivy/t20 or expensive private school while I am going to have to take out 100k in loans because I didn't qualify for full tuition 😝 (or commit to a worse school which I am deciding on) this isn't saying that it sucks to be middle class since ik even though low income students get a lot of financial aid being low income well sucks....
It just so annoying seeing people stress out about thousand dollar bed parties for they're 80k a year school while some of us have to consider taking out loans for half that amount.
My friend wanted to go to the state of Washington for college so UW became her dream school. She got in but also got into FSU and UF (fl resident) and her parents are still going to pay 60k a year for her to go udub.... Obviously am happy for her but its hard not to be jealous when she can afford to make an honestly bad decision (love udub but it is expensive compared to UF and worse imo) so freely.
I know multiple people that are turning down UF for Umich, UNC etc and its so irritating because on one hand im like thats a shitty decision financially but on the other hand im jealous because ik I would love to go to Umich over UF but I can't even consider it and hand to turn it done just cuz of price.
Even my own BF he got more merit money from UM and got into UF (both better schools) but is still willing to pay for Tulane because he likes the "vibes" more.
it is just a mix of being annoyed/thinking its funny that people would turn down a free t30 for worse schools to being upset and jealous that I can't do the same and might have to turn down HYPSM or a t20 because UF/UM are too much of a good deal to pass up...
To clarify: I am not saying I have it worse than someone who is actually poor.
Many of my friends from other High schools are low income and my mom is a single mother and we were low income up until I was in middle school.
I am just complaining since relative to me many people are in a better spot, ofc I would never want to be low income again nor do I think people who are li have it better. I am FG and an immigrant (I moved to the usa when I was young) so did everything for college (research wise myself) the only help I got was from our school counselor and my mom telling me to get good grades, it is just disheartening to feel like you have had to work harder then 90 percent of people in your school for non of your labor to pay off yk.
again
I have literally done ever thing possible
at the end of the day yes I have cost effective options... why because I worked hard. i can still complain about declining Yale or Brown. I was literally competing against kids who were full pay, legacy and able to ed to schools like brown, penn, dartmouth etc. it just sucks that even after all that effort to stand out to these schools I still might not go.
sad that a lot of us will migrate to our college's subreddit, if you want comment where you committed!
Just turned down NYU, UCF, UVA ,UW, William and Mary (bye Monroe scholars ☹️) Umich, Northwestern (well not all today, I have been turning them down this past week) not enough aid to even consider them. I am also turning down tulane which is causing fights with my bf....
Realistically I know I can't go to brown since its almost double yale (idk why I got no aid) but I am struggling to turn it down because I liked it a lot.
I am committed to Yale as of right now but am struggling because after today it will be final. I love Yale but Emory is much more affordable (no loans) and a school I loved and UM and UF are extremely affordable to where I would have money left over (both <10k a year)
edit: I applied linguistics, communications or undecided however I think I am going to do linguistics but be on a premed track.
i've seen so many posts (and have talked to people irl) about being scared they are going to get rescinded from X t50 because they're final quarter grades (or worse full semester grades) are mostly Bs or they have 1 D etc. Like how do you let your grades drop that much in a short amount of time?
IMO there is a difference between not trying as hard and not trying at all especially now that we are "in the home stretch". For example a couple weeks ago I had a chem quiz. I knew that if I did not review I would probably get a B or C, I also knew that my grade was 95 (because I have been keeping up with my grades...) and that the quiz was so small that getting a B, C or even a D would not drop my grade below a 92 (90-100 is an A at my school, no A+) while getting an A or even a perfect score would not increase my grade more than 1 percent. So I didn't review and played roblox while if it were junior year I would have definitely studied "just in case" This is much different than not doing any work and having 10 missing assignments that brings your grade to a D. It is even worse if you had a good grade in the class first semester and are now failing or doing several letter grades worse.
So yea just like a little rant ig.
also Everyone asks if they are going to get rescinded for X amount of Bs or 2 D etc but from what I can tell its not the actually grades but if you've dropped in performance so if you got into a certain school with Bs and Cs on your transcript than its fine to keep having them but if you had all or almost all As when you were accepted (especially with top universities) but now have all Bs you might get questioned.