Here we go.
I recently reconnected with this guy who id been extremely close friends with when I was younger (we both drifted due to busy lives ECT)
It started by spending hours sitting in a car talking. we would both travel 40 mins each way to just sit and talk till like 3am.
The connection building between us was undeniable, you could just feel it. Everything about us is the same, it’s like we never changed. Eventually we kissed and it started to escalate
Fast forward a million more meet ups, we started going to shopping centers, cinema, dinner at many places, clubbing, he introduced me to all of his close personal and work friends.
He works a LOT, day shifts, early shifts, night shifts but he always squeezes me in on his days off, and sometimes he calls me and we talk. He always asks is I’ve eaten, texts me throughout the day, tells me how much he cares about me and how he’s not felt this with anyone else. He’s told me he feels like this is one of them things that just happen for a reason. He even drove over an hour (multiple times) just to sit in a car park with me when my car broke down and I couldn’t meet him halfway.
We’ve had countless nights in hotels together, I’ve even stayed at his parents home with him.
We’ve been romantically like this for about 2 months now.
However, when we first reconnected as friends he was in the middle of leaving his home he had rented with his ex gf. Don’t get me wrong, he’s answered any questions I had. They definitely don’t talk anymore, it was him who ended the relationship as she was really really toxic and emotionally abusive and he said he had been over the relationship for at least 6 months but just couldn’t build up the courage to leave her.
Right now, he’s back with his parents (very fresh and they argue a LOT so he’s often sleeping in his car)
He’s struggling with his mental health a lot due to his life circumstances
& his job isn’t working out well for him as they’ve transferred him to an office role. He’s REALLY worked up about this lately and keeps turning to alcohol at night.
He’s not a bad guy.
The other day we had a gentle talk, where he told
Me I’m wife material. This isn’t the first time he’s made comments about “wifing me up”. He’s also spoken about going abroad on holiday together int he summer.
But he said he’s not in a place where he can be in a relationship right now, but he’s also not interested in pursuing anything with anyone else and he genuinely does like me. He said he wants to sort his life out and he can’t “feel” a relationship. He said he’s understand if I get to a point where I need more and he’s not ready.
But I’m confused… is this a thing guys actually do?
For reference- I know him really well. This dude has never had a hookup before lol. He follows like no one on Instagram. Hes very private and I know everyone in his circle and everyone in his circle knows me. He doesn’t keep me a secret he very openly kisses me, holds me ect. He went through lots of sexual abuse growing up and struggles with intimacy. Which is why I really do feel
Special because he doesn’t struggle with me. He said he feels the emotional connection and safety with me.