Long term couples: how did you become more sexually open?
My husband and I (both late 30s) have been together for over 10 years. We genuinely have a great relationship, love each other a ton, and honestly don’t really have complaints. He’s the love of my life and I can’t imagine a minute without him.
Something interesting though: lately we’ve been having way more sex than we ever used to, and it’s easily the best sex either of us has ever had,thank you SSRIs. We’re more comfortable, more attracted to each other, more open, all of it and holy hell is the sex incredible!!!
One thing we’re running into though is that he takes an SSRI and really struggles to finish. It honestly doesn’t bother me much because I apparently love getting absolutely railed for a very long time lol, but it frustrates him sometimes and selfishly, I want him to breed me so badly, I love him.
I guess I’m looking for two kinds of advice:
For guys on SSRIs, did anything help with delayed finishing without sacrificing mental health stability?
Even after 10+ years together, talking during sex or expressing wants/desires can still feel weirdly clunky sometimes. How did you and your partner get better at asking for things, being more experimental, or just talking more openly without it feeling awkward?
Would especially love hearing from long-term couples who hit a “sexual renaissance” later in the relationship.