My husband is an O-6 in the Navy and I have filed for divorce. In the interim, I have filed a motion for temporary spousal and child support here in Virginia. He will be PCSing 3 hours away and our lease ends on 31 July.
I am a stay-at-home mom to 3 under 3, 2 of them with diagnosed special needs. A few months ago when I filed for divorce, he terminated our lease without my knowledge citing SCRA. However, it was never intended for me and the children to PCS with him due to their special needs and services genuinely being better here than where he will be PCSing. However, since I filed for divorce apparently that no longer matters.
Long story short, our PL hearing was rescheduled to 28 July, only days before the ending of our lease.
My STBX says on 31 July, he will end all utilities, cut off my cell phone, and restrict my access to the only credit card that I am an authorized user on. Other than that I have no access to any accounts or financial information. He keeps me completely in the dark and only sends money if I ask for it, and even then it's nickel and dimed.
He says that I need to figure out housing by 31 July, essentially claiming he is in his legal right to "cut me off" even though we are still legally married. He says if I "can't secure housing" he will take the children with him.
He also expects me to start paying the note by refinancing on the vehicle I use to transport the children to therapies, doctor's appointments and pre-school. If I cannot obtain financing, according to him, he will take the vehicle also.
He is $200,000 in debt (of which I know nothing about), took all of the $16,000 tax refund and I have no idea of where the money went, and he retained an attorney that 1) claims he is well within his rights to essentially continue this financial abuse and 2) tried to pressure me to sign a PL agreement that gives him full custody during the summer months, pay me only $800 in temporary spousal support, and only $1500 in child support.
I know as his legal dependent he can't just leave me on the street, but I don't have an attorney and the clock is ticking.
The rent on our current home is $4100. I was depending on PL relief to either take over the lease or find a new residence for my children and I. But with the judge continuing the PL hearing that is no longer an option. I have no money for an attorney and do not qualify for legal aid.
I figure I can reach out to his command, but I don't know where to start as he is currently at NDU (national defense university).
I figure I will try to make a few appointments with legal assistance offices at local bases, and I want to file a motion to reconsider and subpoena financial records, but that all seems impossible on my own, especially within such a short time frame.
I don't even know what kind of advice I'm looking for exactly. Just any insight you may have I guess ☹️