Profiles should not be allowed to go live without sufficient info under biography.
For number of reasons:
-Anyone can upload a bunch of photos they downloaded from internet, without a written biography there is simply no human element to a profile
-Most empty profiles are just lazy attempts at trying out an app. Not one of my past experiences with an empty profile went anywhere. Whereas I had very successful interactions with people who went into great effort to express themselves.
-If you are joining a dating app you are an adult. You lived on this planet for at least 18, maybe 30-50 years, some much older. How come you got nothing to say about yourself? What have you learned from all these years of living? Or was it just…existing?
As a male in his late 40s, who has a profile with photos and carefully written biography to attract the right crowd, I get enough attention on Feeld, but much of that comes from profiles without biographys, and a lot of time they struggle to express themselves or they are like “what should we talk about?”
Seriously?
I have a pattern that I follow when it comes to dating; we talk until other party feels safe and comfortable enough to meet, and when we meet it’s during daytime in a public place with people around, my preference is no alcohol at first date but if other party prefers alcohol, I make sure it comes straight from bar and gets opened in front of us. I encourage all my female friends to follow this route to avoid getting spiked drinks at dates.
But before we even get to this stage, we need to have a chat, and how long this goes on is different for everyone.
Problem here is that lot of people just upload bunch of photos -usually sexual in nature with empty profiles- and they are like “yeah, bait is out and let someone bite”.
I get it, there are lot of people out there desperate to match someone, and let’s face it; it’s usually more men than women who overrun accounts and this kinda discourages any effort because why bother if men will swarm every account regardless of how little info is there?
But this is the thing; this toxic culture is killing dating apps for everyone involved.
Because some men have such low standards, it encourages some people to not make any effort and what happens is that other men who are genuine in connecting only to people they think they are compatible with, can’t find those who actually put in an afford.
I live in Australia and when I open Feeld, I have to comb through a dozen or more profiles without bio to find someone interesting, because they cared enough to talk about themselves.
To me, rest is just people posing in cleavage or kinky outfits, which there is nothing wrong with and under certain context would even be attractive but without any bio, it’s just an endless parade of body parts with no personalities.
This should stop.