Problem/Goal: I want to be a good partner and a good father, and I don’t know if taking this opportunity makes me responsible—or if it means I’m leaving them when they need me most.
Context: Both my girlfriend (25F) and I (25M) are currently unemployed. We’re both college graduates and started working right after graduation, but things didn’t go as planned.
I had to resign from my job because I needed surgery, and my company wouldn’t approve my leave—even unpaid—so I didn’t really have a choice. My girlfriend also resigned from her job due to physical/sexual harassment that unfortunately wasn’t resolved because the person involved had connections with upper management.
We’ve now been unemployed for about 6 months, and our savings will probably only last another 3–6 months. Recently, we found out she’s pregnant.
Now, an opportunity has come up for me to work in Singapore. I know this could really help us financially and secure a better future for our child. But at the same time, I’m struggling with the idea of leaving while she’s pregnant and not knowing when another opportunity will ever come again if it does, when will it be.
Previous attempts: Tried applying for a job locally, and tried all the government financial aids but what I worry is the long run
Note: -we’re planning to get married (wes) before I leave.