AITA for not inviting my best friends to my wedding
My best friends for 20+ years, are now a married couple. The 3 of us have been through hell together. I really do love them, and aside from everything that follows, they are good friends.
They have a consistent knack for bailing on big plans that I plan specifically. Idk why. To be clear, before I invite them to anything I always ask if they'd even be interested. They almost always say yes.
They've bailed on concerts and sporting events where I'd already paid for tickets. They've bailed on events where I was driving over 2 hours out of my way to pick them up (after I'd already arrived at their house). They've bailed on birthday and holiday parties. Sometimes they show up to things, but 8/10 times they bail. And it's always for the lamest reason, "something in the house broke", "something in the car broke", "work gave an unexpected weekend project", "woke up feeling nauseous".
Context: 2 Memorial Days ago, I invited these friends to a big sporting event. They said they'd love to go, I bought 3 tickets (for $100+ each), and then the morning of, they bailed. It was Memorial Day weekend so I couldn't find anyone else to go with me on such short notice, and just went alone. Then, last Memorial Day, I was invited as a +1 to join a different friend, at their friends house for a hangout weekend. It was a big party, but very apparently a tight-knit group. It was tons of fun and I was posting about it on social media. My two friends were texting and calling me the whole time complaining about how I didn't invite them and they seemed much more upset than usual. One of them even made a big deal about deleting social media and leaving a group chat because they didn't want to see all the fun I was having without them. I told them it wasn't even my party and I was the +1 to somebody else and couldn't invite them. Months after this party, they kept bringing it up and about how disappointed they were that they weren't invited and I kept telling them I'd try to get them invited this year.
SO, this year, I had to awkwardly ask my friend if I could ask his friend if I could invite my friends that nobody knew, to his house. It was a pretty awkward ask because I don't even know the host. But, he said yes as long as I could chip towards food, and I excitedly told my friends. Well, today they texted me saying "[one of their] family members unexpectedly decided to travel to see them, and they couldn't come". Cool.
I've been planning my wedding for a couple months now, and I received this text on the day we were sending out the invitations. Like most weddings, we have a limit on how many people we can invite, AND we have to pay per person for food and such. So when I got the text, I said fuck it, and took them off the list so we could invite people who would actually show up.
Now I'm regretting it realizing that I'll be talking about the wedding with them until it happens. I feel like an asshole, but my spouse said I did the right thing. What do you think?