u/International-Sort-9

My old situationship was the girl of my dreams and she doesn't want me, now I feel hopeless

I started seeing this girl last year who ticked all my boxes, she was smart, funny, kind, attractive etc. And while we were seeing each other she seemed into me, we had a lot of fun going on dates and connecting. The only issue I had was that she wasn't interested in being exclusive, but I accepted it because I liked her company and she made me feel good about myself for the first time in so long. After a few months of being a situationship she started to pull back, I wasn't sure if it was me or something in her life she didn't want to talk about, so I suggested we cool things off and gave her space.

Cut to recently I reached back out, wanting to see how she was doing and to hopefully give us another go. But she's now seeing someone else exclusively (Even deleted her hinge app so it must be serious) and it's somewhat broken me, that the girl of my dreams was willing to be exclusive with someone else but I wasn't worth her full attention.

I feel sick thinking about her with this other person, that I wasn't good enough for her, and have to keep telling myself that at least she has someone looking over her just to get by. But I don't know how to get over this soul crushing feeling. Repeating thoughts like "If my dream girl doesn't want me then what hope do I have?". It's just exacerbated some self image problems I already had so I feel awful.

I need some hope at the moment, because I'm feeling like I have no chance of finding anyone like her ever again

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u/International-Sort-9 — 2 days ago