Need help on my 13 year old who moved to Australia from the asia last year
Hi all. Just needing some advice with my teenage boy who was raised by his grandparents for 8 years of his life. He was really spoiled and i am now having huge trouble with adjusting him into western life. For context at age 12 my dad would still tie his shoelaces and my mum would slice his meat for him.
He is really sweet to me in front of his friends. Hes so rude and disrespectful away from his friends. He also brags sooo much and honestly it seems has delusions of grandeur. He always gets into fights in school because of his smart mouth. Loses friends as quickly as he gains them. And lies about EVERYTHING. My ex was a compulsive liar. Would lie about things like hes been to singapore (found out later hes never even owned a passport) and etc. For context hes never really spent time with his father, he left the picture when my son was a month old. I can see my son with the same traits.
He will always lie. And i mean always. We will be at the mall and he will claim to have known people there. Oh thats my class mate. Oh that girl used to like me. And i believed him for ages. Until we were at the mall 90kms from our house and he said oh that guy is from my school. Thats when i realised he was just saying things for nothing. When i pressed him on it apparently he didnt know the guy. Recently his principal called me as he told them we didnt have food at home. Which also isnt true.
I am at a loss on how to bond with him as he moved here as a teenager and i dont want these traits to be carried into adulthood.
Also thinking counselling might help since its a big move to another country but i dont know how to approach the subject without him thinking there’s “something wrong with him”