I (bi F24) and my partner (straight M24) have been together for 3 years, having gotten together initially 5 years ago and breaking up for a couple of years in between. Over the past year he has floated the idea of wanting to watch me with other people and at first I didn’t take him seriously but now I’m starting to become curious and our conversations about it are becoming more serious.
Whilst we were broken up I slept with two different guys and before we got back together he wanted to know the details of these encounters with them. I explained them briefly but he requested more detail which I gave and this seemed to really turn him on at the time. I wasn’t sure if this was just a one off momentary thing since we hadn’t seen each other in a while and he was a bit drunk, but again like I said he has been floating the idea ever since. Before we got back together he even asked me to download tinder so I could have a one night stand with a guy and to film it for him which I didn’t want to do.
Whenever he brings up the idea of watching me with a man it has never really appealed to me but recently he brought up the idea of watching me with a girl which I’ve become curious about. He knows that I’m bi but have never been with a woman and explained that he wants me to be able to have that experience and he would get the added benefit of being able to watch. He said that he wouldn’t mind opening the relationship on my end but keeping it closed on his end. This does turn me on but I have my worries about the situation.
Is it common for males to want to watch FF without joining in?
Would I get jealous of him watching the other girl?
What if this evolves into him wanting to get involved too? It might sound selfish but I wouldn’t want him touching another woman or another woman touching him.
I think I’m struggling to understand his mentality in this at the moment since if it was the other way around and he was suggesting that I watch him with someone else I would be livid.
Does anyone else have experience with this, if so please give me some advice.
Im especially curious to know what the mentality of the guy is in this type of situation