33(Male).
I've been a secretary/leading meetings for a struggling meeting for 3 years now on a weekend night. I've been grateful to have the position, & keep a meeting open that was there for me when I needed it most. I started with Saturday nights, then picked up Fridays, then ended up with Friday & Saturday for about 16 months, and have been back to just having Friday for the last 9 months. I'd love to have the spirit of rotation take my spot!
This meeting has been beset by the normal issues of members not getting along well, as well as a few recurring characters with deep-seeded mental issues that had to be trespassed. I've seen all of it, & been a loyal secretary through this time.
My current issue, honestly, is with a few old-timers who like to come & try to talk my ear off for 30-75 minutes. Not engaged in a conversation, just sort of talking at me. I have a feeling they wish "the old days" of the pre-pandemic meeting were back, & that there were a bunch of people all leaving the meeting to go out to grab food & converse. Now, the meeting is a handful of people (3-11, 15 tops), and when it's over, I just want to leave and go to sleep. It's late on a Friday, after I've accrued the normal sleep debt of a working adult.
One of these old timers has just gotten ahold of my phone number last Thursday. After the last Friday meeting, he walks to my car, tells me "you can't get rid of me". He's been calling me every other day. That's probably how the program used to go, people check in with you. It was the "you can't get rid of me" comment that just caught me a bit off guard.
Called me yesterday. I'm going to go with him to a casino for some gaming & dinner this Saturday, as he says he wants to get to know me, since I've been around the program for a bit.
He offered a hotel room at the casino if I get tired. I'm taking my own car. We can meet there, we're adults. I do plan to meet him there, & give him an honest "get to know me" visit, & have a good time. But it just feels a little off.
I'm not sure if I'm overreacting because I'm burnt out, or if this sounds like odd behavior.