Im (55f) my partner (55m) we have been together (11m) We have known eachother since young but never got together until now
We are in a long distance relationship, very happy together and are planning our future together
He is separated and has a 13 year old daughter
I have just recently met his daughter and we get on very well. We have taken our time with his daughter, he told his ex first that he was with someone and that he wanted to introduce her at some point, she told him she didnt want her daughter to have any surprises, we have done things very gradual. We always made sure that our relationship has not interfiered in him keeping his routine in seeing his daughter. He eventually asked her if she wanted to meet me and she did so we arranged for me to visit.
His ex is very controlling, they dont communicate well and still.lots of animosity between them and hes scared of what she might do.
He told his ex his daughter wanted to meet me and would arrange it, his ex went crazy saying he didnt respect her as a mother......
She has text a few times saying she wants to meet me if this thing he has with me was going to be serious and wants to know who her daughters around. He told me. I initially said yes straight away. I would see her when ever im next there. I was thinking occasionally I pick up.or drop his daughter off with him so would see her then.
When he saw her next he said I had agreed to meet her.
Then later on she text him and said to give me her number and get me to ring her as she wants to have a discussion with me on the phone first, before we meet!
I get the whole thing she dosnt know me, she wants to see who her daughters around but I had already agreed to meet.
Iv spoken it through with my partner, he dosnt want her having my number and neither do I. I dont feel theres a need as I only occasionally see his daughter and hes always there. I feel it would be different if I was looking after her myself but I dont.
He thinks it's her being controlling. Shes fallen out with friends and her family and dosnt speak to them so I dont have a good vibe about it all.
He had said he would take me to her door next time I was there. Where I want to keep thinks calm for the daughters sake, I feel if she wants to see me she can come to the car, I can maybe gauge how shes going to be with me
Any advice please
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