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I’m looking for advice on relationships as a young pre-professional singer. Is it a bad idea to date another singer?

I’m female in case that makes a difference.

I think I might be demi but I'm not sure, and am looking for advice. For context I'm female and attracted to men.

I never had a boyfriend in school, nor did I experience any real sexual desire. I didn't think it was normal for girls to masturbate - I just never had the urge to. I then discovered from my friends at uni that this was unusual. I do have a sex drive, I just think it's not the most active.

In my first year at university, I started chatting to this guy and we started dating. I fell pretty hard pretty fast, but his interest levels didn't match mine and he dumped me after a couple of months. I haven't dated anyone else since then, but I've had a few instances where I develop feelings for a guy once I've gotten to know him.

A few years ago, I developed feelings for a friend and coworker, who clearly wasn't interested in me. He was decently conventionally attractive, but it was his personality that I think I liked.

I moved and then befriended this other guy, who I've fallen for again. We're good friends, and have a lot in common, and I really like him. He is somewhat conventionally attractive, but what made me develop feelings is who he is as a person.

Now I've been talking to this other guy I'm in a show with (he's my character's love interest, which I know is a whole 'nother kettle of fish). We've been texting a bit and we chat at rehearsal, and I've started feeling confused. Objectively, he is not an attractive guy, but as I've gotten to know him, things have gotten complicated for me emotionally. And this has made me start to think more seriously that I might be demisexual.

I seem to not have a clear type either - the guys I've been interested are all extremely different, different nationalities and skin tones, different hair/eye colours, different heights - which again makes me wonder if I'm potentially demisexual.

I can recognise if a guy is 'attractive', but I'm not really interested until I get to know them. And this is becoming a problem, because it feels like all the guys I befriend I end up being interested in. At least I know I'm straight, I guess, because this doesn't happen at all with my female friends.

Does anyone have any advice? Could I be demisexual?

Why do some singers' jaws tremble when they sing vibrato? I want to understand why it happens technique-wise.

I've also seen some other singers with tongues that move with vibrato. Does that have similar or different causes?

I tried asking my teacher but I don't think she understood. She said it was about bringing up too much chest voice, but how can that cause shaky jaw on a high C, for example?