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Long story short – my aunt passed last year and left me her duplex in a Midwest city I've never even visited. I thought - free rental income but its been nothing but headaches.

The tenants are still there month to month but one is consistently late on rent and the other just stopped paying altogether. Eviction in that county takes like 4-6 months from what I've read. Meanwhile I'm covering two mortgages (my own place plus this duplex) plus utilities for the unit thats not paying. Its eating up about $900 a month from my savings.

I live on the west coast. Flying out to deal with showings, repairs, court dates – not realistic with my job and two kids.

I've looked into property management companies but they want 8-10% plus fees for evictions and maintenance. And honestly? I just want out. This "inheritance" feels like a curse.

So heres what I'm trying to figure out - wholesale it. Find an investor who'll take it as-is with the tenants. Quick close, no repairs, no evictions. But I know wholesalers take a cut and I might leave money on the table. Option 2 – List with a local agent. But the house needs work (roof is 20+ years, HVAC is old, one unit has water damage) and I can't afford to fix it from here. Selling as-is on MLS might take months and I'd still have to deal with showings and lowball offers.

Has anyone here dealt with a remote inherited rental that went sideways? What did you do – wholesale, cash buyer, or just suck it up and hire a PM? Any advice on which route gets me out fastest without losing my shirt? Also if you've used a cash buyer for a tenant-occupied place, how did the transition work? Did they handle the eviction or was that on you?

Seriously any help appreciated. I'm tired of watching my savings drain for a property I never wanted.

Honestly, how do you not go blind after 1,000 resumes?

I’m not even exaggerating. We posted a remote admin role last Tuesday and got 2,400 applications in 48 hours. I tried to read every one for the first 200 and wanted to cry. Now I’m just skimming for 3 keywords and praying.

Does anyone actually have a system that doesn’t make you feel like a garbage human? Like, do you use some kind of auto-screen that’s not totally broken? Or do you just accept that 80% get a 3-second glance?

Not trying to be lazy, just… human.

Thanks!

i really do believe mindset changes a lot and im trying to be more intentional with my thoughts and energy lately but sometimes i honestly struggle with the line between being positive and feeling completely disconnected from reality. like i want to trust the process and believe things can work out for me but there are days where forcing myself to stay positive just makes me feel exhausted instead of hopeful
especially when youre waiting for something specific and nothing around you seems to reflect it yet. then i start overthinking everything like am i doing something wrong am i too attached am i secretly blocking it by doubting sometimes. i still want to believe in manifestation because there have definitely been moments in my life that felt way too aligned to be coincidence but i guess im trying to find a healthier balance where im optimistic without feeling like i have to ignore real emotions or pretend im happy all the time. curious if anyone else went through this phase and what helped you stop spiraling while still keeping faith in the process

Im honestly just ready to admit defeat with the whole pantry ingredient phase. i spent like a year trying to convince myself that dumping raw coconut and olive oil on my head was somehow better for my waves, but in reality i just walked around looking like a greasy frizzy mess the entire time

it genuinely sucks how hard it is to find natural stuff that doesnt either strip your hair to literal straw or weigh it down with weird heavy waxes. like why is the "clean" aisle at the drugstore so aggressive on my scalp

kinda had a wake up call when i stayed at a friends place and used her shower. she had some botanist stuff in there and i just used it out of pure desperation. it was just a plant based anti frizz shampoo and conditioner but my god the difference. My hair actually absorbed the moisture instead of it just sitting on top like a helmet of grease

kinda mad at myself for dealing with the heavy diy oils for so long when japanese haircare literally figured out how to use natural extracts without making u look unwashed lol. has anyone else completely abandoned the kitchen ingredients for actual formulated stuff or am i just weak tbh

I was just trying to “eat a bit cleaner” and ended up learning more about animal welfare and the environmental side, and it slowly stopped feeling like a diet and more like a line I didn’t want to cross anymore. The weird part is it got easier over time, not harder. Once I found a few go to meals and stopped overthinking it, it just became normal life.

Curious how it happened for others, was it a sudden switch or more of a slow shift like this?

Two weeks ago I got an email from Chase about a new card application. Except I didn't apply for anything.

Called them immediately. Someone used my name, SSN, and current address to try and open a card. They caught it before it went through (probably because the address didn't match some verification thing), but still. This is real now.

I've spent the last two weeks doing all the stuff the FTC says to do. Fraud alert on credit reports. Police report. IC3 complaint. Froze all three bureaus. Checked my credit report for other stuff.

Here's what I haven't figured out - how do I stop this from happening again?

The credit freeze helps prevent new accounts. I get that. But fraudsters can still use my existing info for other stuff, right? Synthetic identity fraud? Tax fraud? Medical fraud?

I've been looking into data removal services because people keep telling me -get your info off people search sites but I honestly don't know if that helps with identity theft or if it's just for spam calls.

Stuff I'm trying to figure out - do data brokers actually contribute to identity theft or is that just marketing? Has anyone here paid for a removal service AFTER getting their identity stolen and felt like it made a difference? What's the difference between services like Incogni, DeleteMe, iolo, Optery? They all sound the same when you read the websites

I'm not looking for perfect. I know my data is already burned. But I'd like to at least make it harder for whoever has my info to keep using it.Would love to hear from people who've actually been through this.

What helped you sleep better after identity theft?

Breaking Bad is pretty much considered perfect, but I’m curious if there’s any small detail, character decision, or storyline you would’ve handled differently

Not necessarily fixing anything, just personal preferences like an alternate direction a character could’ve taken or a scene you would’ve expanded

What’s one change you’d make if you had the chance?

A good approach is to focus less on price and more on personal connection. Things that reflect shared memories or the person’s interests usually land better than generic items

For example, a curated playlist with a small note explaining why you picked each song can be surprisingly meaningful. Another option is a printed photo with a short handwritten message, or even something practical they use daily but slightly personalized (like a keychain, mug, or notebook with an inside reference only you both understand).

The key is that it feels intentional, not random