Some context : I (32F) live in an apartment in big city. As most apartments here, walls are thin and we can easily hear each other. We must be quiet after 10 pm. I've been unlucky with the neighbors on one of the sides of my apartment. First one when I moved here was really nasty and we got infestations often. Second one was a loud guy calling his family at 6am on Sundays or late at night (but overall, he was the nicest one). Third ones were a couple of loud women way past 10pm, even screaming sometimes. One of them was nice, came apologizing sometimes and told me to just knock on the wall if they were too loud after 10pm. The other one was a pos, kept lying to me and even banged on the wall a couple of times after I did it (quietly and politely, to not startle them) and even lied about it after... I had to tell the landlord a few times about it and then they finally moved out and we get to the fourth neighbor since I'm here.
To the story. They are a couple in their 20s. I never met them in person, they moved in a few months ago and just saw them briefly when we had a fire alarm few weeks ago. But overall they're pretty decent compared to the ones before, except... for spicy times... Let's say it politely : she's a screamer. It can happen anytime of the day during weekends and a few times a week past 10pm or in the middle of the night, because otherwise it wouldn't be fun, right? I one day hesitated to cancel my supervisor coming over (she's also a friend, but supervisor sounded more serious and because of that, I'm not close enough to be comfortably sitting in my apartment with that type of sounds coming from the neighbors) at some point because they were being loud in the middle of the day, like 1pm (after having done it at 8am and waking me up). I guess that was a special day because they also did it loudly again that night. Anyway, good for them, everyone can enjoy their spicy times but I do not need nor want to feel like I'm listening to a corn movie when I don't want to.
I know from another neighbor that I'm a quiet person, I use headphones for everything and he even told me sometimes he didn't even know I was in. So I made a point of using my speakers more often. When my husband comes over, we make a point to speak normally, hoping they catch on that the walls are thin. But I guess it's not enough (and we're not tacky enough to be loud in that sense as well lol).
So here I am, asking for advice on what and especially how to tell them to make less noise during their spicy times. Any ideas?
I've been watching Charlotte for a while and it's my first post here! Please be kind! I'll gladly answer questions :)