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Pope Leo needs to stop the Opus Dei canonisation circus

Pope Leo needs to stop the Opus Dei canonisation circus

Bishops say that all issues to do with the reform of Opus Dei are in the hands of the pope, as it's an international organisation. Yet here we have the morally bankrupt Catholic bishop of Salford (Manchester, UK) undermining the pope's position by opening the cause of the beatification of a child celibate recruit of Opus Dei - see https://dioceseofsalford.org.uk/cause-for-beatification-of-pedro-ballester/

Bishop John Arnold of Salford is clearly in the back pocket of Opus Dei. I have mentioned on this forum before how he secretly handed over St Bede's College, Manchester, to Opus Dei. This college has a shocking history of clergy abuse of kids, which its current Opus Dei management are whitewashing, along with the crimson tide of Opus Dei abuses which the current and previous popes have been struggling to get to grips with. I wrote to this bishop some time ago, very politely, to ask for transparency on Opus Dei and St Bede's College and I did not get the courtesy of a reply.

This shows how Opus Dei plays the Catholic hierarchy. When bishops raise issues with Opus Dei, they will say that only the pope has jurisdiction, which is not true but getting to the bottom of the canonical mess is something on which Opus Dei is adept at wearing out its challengers within the church.

At the same time, Opus Dei will buy off individual bishops for initiatives like this beatification. So the bishop has authority to act without the pope when it suits Opus Dei or not, again when it suits Opus Dei.

And so Opus Dei will schmooze its way through the Vatican corridors of power to advertise how modern and relevant it is in pursuing the cause of beatification of a young person. When challengers look into the issue of coercion of young people to join Opus Dei, they can pull out canonised saints of Opus Dei who committed to God young in their defence.

Let's remember that any decision to pursue the beatification or canonisation process for a member of Opus Dei starts in secret council meetings of Opus Dei. There is no sense of popular acclaim within Opus Dei or beyond. In fact, the spirit of freedom that would be needed for popular acclaim in the first place has been systematically erased from Opus Dei members through years of oppressive spiritual direction.

Misinformation officers of Opus Dei will be oozing their way around centres of Opus Dei and the Catholic media to plug the cause shamelessly, begging for prayers to get that one sure-fire miracle that can tick all the boxes for a beatification - an elaborate exercise in simony on a par with the sale of indulgences. All the saints in heaven, including those who were in Opus Dei on earth, turn away in horror.

If bishops and priests in the privacy of their own consciences feel likewise, they need to act and persuade the pope to call a halt to opportunistic beatification or canonisation causes, opened just a few years after death. It's their church. What kind of church do they want?

u/Informal_Farm4064 — 7 hours ago
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Dealing with confidentiality issues with cult members

I have had the good fortune of being able to leave a cult (in my case the Catholic cult, Opus Dei), without the burden of having to deal with relatives or colleagues who remain in it. And like every cult, there is no concept of respectful confidentiality in Opus Dei. There are established channels in which one is expected to reveal intimate details of one's life and the lives of others one is around, dressed up as approved or divine practices, with bad consequences for not disclosing information that could be important to the reputation, influence and preservation of the cult.

Among ex-cult members who have relatives in it, there can almost be a resignation to the fact that their relative is going to talk about their business with leaders or others in their cult. That's the way the cult has always worked, one can reason, and after all breaches of confidentiality are not illegal. But of course, this is cancerous to genuine relationships and the rebuilding of personal emotional boundaries.

But it strikes me that insisting on confidentiality from relatives still in a cult is a very important thing to do, even if one knows it will be an uphill battle. This could even be an area where ex-members band together to insist on ethical behaviour from cult members they have to keep dealing with. As cults operate by asserting power, it's often only powerful, coordinated responses that might make them change, when they see that it has become in their own interests to accommodate a powerful adversary.

What do others think about this issue and the possible ways to deal with these problems? Thanks for reading.

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u/Informal_Farm4064 — 2 days ago

A rare positive experience of Opus Dei - relating to soccer/football

A football World Cup is upon us (summer 2026) which reminds me of the 1998 World Cup. At the time, I was teaching English in an Opus Dei course in Teruel (Aragon, Spain) for boys who went to Opus Dei schools or clubs. I learnt the phrase "el quinto pino", the fifth pine, which means in English "the middle of nowhere", which is a fair description of Teruel, but it was a nice place.

During the course, England played Argentina. I think it was the second round or quarter final. I and the other English teachers slipped away from the college to a quiet local bar which was showing the match. We were the only people watching.

However, the bar staff and the few regulars there were amused to see us very animated while we watched. It was the infamous match where David Beckham got sent off for stroking the leg of Diego Simeone with his boot, resulting in Simeone collapsing to the ground like some poleaxed animal. Typical Argentine bad sportsmanship. I'm not bitter....We lost 2-1 I think.

As the match went on, the bar filled up with local Spaniards wearing their favourite football jerseys, not watching the match, but lining the wall watching us watch the match, with great amusement.

We slunk back to the college where we were greeted with pretty much the entire group of Spanish boys shouting gleefully at us "Argentina, Argentina". We had to suck it up.

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u/Informal_Farm4064 — 3 days ago

Analysis of positive Opus Dei interview with Dr Laura from Barcelona

In my first article of today, I mentioned the "One by One" series on opusdei.org which are interviews with individuals about how Opus Dei has helped them. I mentioned that two of the interviews were with ex-members, including Laura from Barcelona, a doctor. The interview is also on YouTube - see https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sw0Z-GNJOBY&list=PPSV&t=18s My comment below the video was removed quickly!

In the monologue, Laura tells us that she was a numerary of Opus Dei for 25 years until 2020, when she left at the age of 40. This means that she joined in her mid-teens - for her at the age of 15 - like the vast majority of celibate members. 

I am happy for her that she was able to leave and find a husband. She states that she is married to a fellow doctor, who is ▷ Dr. Gerardo Sáenz de Navarrete Ribera - Barraquer and who appears in her video and has a public online presence.

However, there are many celibate members of Opus Dei who leave after long periods and who are not so lucky to find love. For example, many former domestic servant members experienced much heavier psychological and physical exploitation than Laura and have been too traumatised to form stable romantic relationships, not to mention lost all their childbearing years to a false vocation to Opus Dei. Such women did most of Laura’s domestic duties in her home for 25 years, enabling her to follow her career. Laura doesn’t mention them.  

It’s notable that Laura regards all her years since the age of 15 as time when she was part of Opus Dei. This is consistent with the lived experience of Opus Dei members that, as soon as they ask to join Opus Dei, they are treated as full members, with no further meaningful discernment, even as a child. She adds: 

“The decision to join Opus Dei was entirely my own.” 

This seems scripted. Given that she joined at the age of 15, the idea of joining Opus Dei will have been proposed to her in a private chat by a priest or club leader of Opus Dei. She would have been in an atmosphere where committing to Opus Dei for life had been normalised and peer pressure as well as grooming pressure from the leaders would have been highly persuasive factors. What 15 year-old can give informed consent to a decision to commit for life to a celibate vocation once and for all without further discernment?

On leaving Opus Dei, she says it took a long time because 

“I always had the perspective that my vocation wasn’t a variable but a constant. I had never questioned it because it was deeply mine and precisely because I had made the decision freely.”

Again, this seems scripted. In reality, there is no scope for questioning one’s vocation because when you do so and are sincere about it with your spiritual director in Opus Dei, you are told not to question it. She is silent on the pressure she would have had to stay in Opus Dei, including likely veiled threats of gambling with one's eternal salvation. She and/or her Opus Dei handlers are being subtle in the choice of words. This is reprehensible. 

Laura was in Opus Dei for 25 years and out for about 5 years when she appeared in this video. She has several close relatives in Opus Dei. She has lived her whole life in the Opus Dei ecosystem. This is very early days for her to have processed much of her Opus Dei trauma, and no doubt, she has a busy job helping many people. She will still be in very deep denial about her participation in the grooming of potential recruits to commit to Opus Dei that she participated in since the age of 15. 

As a doctor, she will have been something of a local celebrity in Opus Dei and been exempt from a lot of the internal duties that most numeraries are burdened with e.g. being on local councils, hearing the chats of other members, giving talks of formation, running retreats and annual courses. However, she was in Opus Dei long enough that she would very likely have done some of these duties at various times, and undoubtedly knows what they involved, including the lack of confidentiality, making decisions about people’s lives and grooming of potential recruits. 

Laura was in Opus Dei for long enough that she would have known and probably still knows many many members and ex-members with the following features:

  1. major, long-term psychological symptoms, such as depression, psychosis, breakdowns, addictions
  2. celibate members referred to the 4th floor of the Clinic Universitaria in the Opus Dei University of Navarre to be medicated for their psychiatric symptoms by Opus Dei clinicians, and so kept away from mainstream psychology - further details https://www.reddit.com/r/opusdeiexposed/comments/1t5i7oy/next_up_spotlight_on_opus_deis_extensive_drugging/ 
  3. burnt out teachers in Opus Dei schools 
  4. physical health problems from overwork, in the case of domestic servant members
  5. well-documented deceptive recruitment and trafficking of minors as domestic servants worldwide
  6. old, sad numeraries and priests who have few friends or family ties after decades of internal work, and who are kept away from the public eye
  7. traumatised ex-members, who have struggled to adapt to normal life
  8. estranged members of Opus Dei families who never joined and who are allergic to Opus Dei because of its controlling and interfering ways
  9. people whose life decisions such as careers and residence were taken for them and who have lost a lot of happiness as a result
  10. women married members pressured to have very large families
  11. colleagues and supposed friends who she talked about in spiritual direction and put on the “St Joseph’s list” of potential recruits every 19 March, and who are wary of her because they worked out that her friendship is not genuine

As a doctor, Laura has a higher duty than most to be ethical and for me, this should include acknowledging the very many health issues that she witnessed during her time in Opus Dei. For this reason alone, the exposure of her in this article is important. 

Laura and people like her who want to acknowledge the positives from their time in Opus Dei are entitled to do so. But if they can’t combine this with acknowledging the problems that they witnessed, then they are not ready to go public at all.

If she sees this, I challenge her either to publicly withdraw her consent for the video to be shown by Opus Dei or to agree to an unscripted, improvised interview on the problems in Opus Dei and her experience of them. 

u/Informal_Farm4064 — 3 days ago

How Opus Dei launders its sordid reputation with its "One by One" stories of satisfied ex-members

Recently, the Opus Dei Misinformation Dungeons have been working hard on series of 49 face-to-face interviews with individuals about Opus Dei - mostly members and non-members. However, there are also 2 ex-numerary members (celibates living in centres of Opus Dei), a doctor called Laura from Barcelona and an NGO manager called Pedro from Argentina. See

https://opusdei.org/en-uk/article/one-by-one-numerary-argentina-discernment-vocation-dating/
https://opusdei.org/en-uk/article/one-by-one-testimony-numerary-barcelona-discernment-virtues-formation/

Most of the 49 interviewees are from Spain, Argentina and Brazil. The only two English-speaking interviews were with people from Canada and Australia. Notably for me, there was no one from the UK, the USA or Ireland, where efforts to counter deceptive Opus Dei narratives in the English-speaking world are perhaps more concentrated.

It seems to me that the 2 interviews with the ex-numeraries were aimed at showing that the vast majority of ex-members are on good terms with the Prelature and are broadly happy with their Opus Dei experience.

Nothing in these interviews is left to chance. There is no interviewer or dialogue. Everything will have been discussed, scripted, edited, re-recorded until the end-product conformed exactly to the pre-set narratives of the Prelature i.e. to make Opus Dei look as good as possible, while retaining its improvised nature and ignoring specific criticisms.

What are these narratives?

  1. There was a process of genuine discernment of "vocation" to Opus Dei before joining, with no pressure.
  2. The person grew spiritually in their time in Opus Dei.
  3. It was easy to leave Opus Dei. It was a personal decision. There was no pressure to stay.
  4. The Prelature was willing to listen to criticisms from the departing member.
  5. Those criticisms were minor.
  6. Opus Dei helped them in their lives, and to make a positive contribution to society during that time and after they left.
  7. They remain on good terms with current members of Opus Dei, have no bad feeling, and may even continue to attend Opus Dei spiritual activities.

These two ex-numeraries are sellouts because they know that they are misleading viewers by omission, careful phrasing that conceals the true coercive nature of Opus Dei and by allowing Opus Dei leaders to dictate the terms of the interview i.e. nothing negative about Opus Dei. I will go into detail about the deception in these videos in future articles. Thank you for reading.

u/Informal_Farm4064 — 3 days ago

Finding God in moments of humiliation

God calls us closer to him in the depths of our hearts, in the stillness, in the peace, when we have a humble and loving disposition. A humble and contrite heart, o Lord you will not spurn.

If we feel that God is inaccessible, then we can turn our attention to a humiliation, a time when we fell short of our own expectations, or when others disrespected us. Dwell on that moment and be in it with God. Accept the situation, the feelings, the pain. We are not above adversity, opposition or contempt. This is meekness.

Ask God to show himself to us in that moment, to teach us lovingly from it and to comfort us.

Take as long as it takes - no rush, no deadline. God does not stay if we hurry him. He comes back when we've got time for him and for ourselves - it's a matter of self-respect as much as respect for him.

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u/Informal_Farm4064 — 4 days ago

Opus Dei and its "holy coercion"

Josemaria Escriva wrote in "The Way":
"Intransigence is not just simply intransigence: it is 'holy intransigence.' Don't forget that there also exists a 'holy coercion.'

• Text from point 398 of chapter Your holiness of Josemaría Escrivá's book The Way. Link: https://escriva.org/en/camino/398/

This book received the Imprimatur and Nihil Obstat from the Vatican, which means that it is declared free of Catholic doctrinal error.

How can the Vatican have approved a book that contains an assertion that coercion can be "holy"? Well, there is no further explanation from Escriva in the chapter so perhaps the Vatican thought it was capable of differing interpretations.

Escriva started to compile his musings into what later became "The Way" in 1934, the same year that he wrote his internal document, "Instruction on the Way to do Proselytism" i.e. his "indications" to members of Opus Dei on how to recruit people to Opus Dei.

This internal document does not have any approval by the Vatican. Examples of "holy coercion" are seen in the following paragraphs:

80. "...your spiritual director must always be a priest of Opus Dei"

(This rule breached canon 530 of the 1917 Code of Canon law, now in canon 630 of the 1983 Code.)

81. "With holy mischief, bring to our priests the souls whose vocation concerns you. If you cannot or it is not discreet to take them under your direction from the beginning, put them in contact with our priests for a professional matter, presenting them as advisors in Law, Morality, Philosophy, History, Literature, etc. This point is of great importance."

This guideline is manifestly evil.

I don't know when the Vatican first received the internal documents of Opus Dei but they have definitely had them for a few years, since being provided publicly by a former member who filed them all along with an official canon law complaint.

For the Vatican to tolerate this nonsense is further nonsense. It brings shame on the Catholic church that a nutter can promote "coercion" as holy.

This is one of many reasons why the Catholic church is dying. Every time the Vatican makes a decision to ignore an outrage that the average person immediately knows is immoral, or puts it in the in-tray for consideration one day who knows when, it dies a little more, and deservedly so.

Our world needs truth, validation of the truth, and courage to validate the truth. When one has this courage, it is not hard. This is what good people do all day long - instinctively react to something that doesn't feel moral. It doesn't need years of study and consultation for popes to do likewise. Popes have imperial power over their church.

u/Informal_Farm4064 — 6 days ago

What would a modern Jesus do about Opus Dei?

It's interesting that the Catholic church, after many centuries, came down against the belief in reincarnation. To prove its point, it made sure that one of the leading theologians of early centuries, Origen, was not canonised, made a saint.

Yet, mainstream Christian teaching tells us Jesus pre-existed his human form, rose from the dead and then appeared in a new body which could walk through walls. And Jesus will apparently reappear on earth at the end of time.

Amongst all that, I would challenge - in my amateur way - the most orthodox theologian to definitively rule out the possibility that Jesus has not come down here in various incarnations since the 1st century AD.

So let's imagine what he would make of Opus Dei. I imagine that if he met a distressed Opus Dei member who felt bound in conscience to stay in Opus Dei, he would simply tell them that Opus Dei is a human institution, not a divine one, and that it has no authority to bind the consciences of individuals.

Of course, there is no telling if any such person would "see" Jesus for who he is, though it is more likely that the heavily oppressed would.

If a modern Jesus came across senior Opus Dei leaders, I believe that we would have a replay of his interactions with the Pharisees of 1st century Israel/Palestine. Jesus would see their black hearts and be public about this. He would tell them in God's name to stop what they are doing. He would have his version of turning over the tables in the temple in protest at their blasphemy.

In return, Opus Dei leaders would refuse to accept Jesus for who he is, perhaps say he is from the devil - like the Pharisees did. They would try to ignore him and once this became impossible, agitate and manoeuvre against him.

No doubt, many good people over the 100 miserable years of Opus Dei have tried to speak in God's name to the founder and leaders, remonstrating about the abuses and errors. However, they have not cut through the coercion and lies in enough depth to shake the institution. Jesus also failed against the Pharisees at the time.

But Jesus also prophesied that "not one stone would be left on another". This is traditionally thought to refer to the destruction of the temple in Jerusalem in AD 70 and the dispersal of the Jewish people.

I believe Opus Dei is under the same judgment. Perhaps it will fade out over several decades or perhaps the fading will end sooner with a sudden collapse.

If Pope Leo suppressed Opus Dei for just 6 months, it would give enough time for most members to make significant progress in deconditioning - as long as they kept their distance from leaders and priests. They would regain sufficient autonomy to make some freer decisions as to what Opus Dei, Catholicism and God mean to them and what sort of spiritual life to have moving forward.

After 6 months, Pope Leo could meet the leaders of Opus Dei again in a new way and talk terms more as equals, with some new-found humility on the Opus Dei side - or what would be left of it.

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u/Informal_Farm4064 — 8 days ago
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I wanted to share this sadness here where I might be understood better. I got a job offer recently to work as a support worker in a children's home. For me, holding down this job would have been the most amazing achievement.

I was given up for adoption at birth for Catholic reasons, then an orphan for 6 months, then adopted into an alcoholic family, my adoptive mother died, I was adopted again aged 10, and later as a young adult I was in a Catholic cult for 9 years.

I have done all the forgiving I need to do and have peace in my heart. I have a beautiful experience of being a dad of a secure 9 year old boy and 53 years of being on this earth and surviving.

But just starting the training for the job made me realise quite quickly that I won't have the emotional resilience to be there for these kids. I want to support them more than any other job I have wanted to do. But I know now I can't. The emotional regulation centres in the brain are just not there or not developed enough. The damage is too deep - probably deeper in many ways than many of the people I would be helping. I won't be able to model emotional regulation to them. The overwhelm will come fast. I over-identify with kids I have never met but just heard about.

This really hurts me. I really wanted this job. They didn't tell me overtly not to continue but I knew that it wasn't realistic. I know it's the right decision not to continue. But I had to give it a go to find out for myself. I need to be kind to myself now and accept more deeply that my limitations are not my fault. I feel adrift and unsure what to do in life right now. Thank you for reading.

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u/Informal_Farm4064 — 9 days ago

Gareth Gore tells the Pope of the psychological abuse of Opus Dei people by its psychiatrists

In a recent interview with a Spanish news outlet, Gareth Gore relayed that he had told Pope Leo about the 4th floor of the "Clinica Universitaria" in Pamplona, Spain, where traumatised members of Opus Dei are sent by Opus Dei for psychiatric treatment that does "not question their vocation to Opus Dei." I was one such victim. Apparently the pope did not know before about this clinic department and gasped.

Here is the article https://cadenaser.com/nacional/2026/05/04/gareth-gore-autor-de-opus-el-papa-me-prometio-que-examinaria-todas-las-pruebas-sobre-los-abusos-en-un-hospital-del-norte-de-espana-cadena-ser/#

From it: "Those victims who are sent to Opus Dei doctors [in this clinic] are prescribed a cocktail of medicines to hide their symptoms without really addressing the causes of their mental infirmity. There have been many cases of suicide and people who could not overcome their issues and did not receive help from the organisation."

This is what happened to me in 2003/04, following discussion by the Regional Commission of the UK including Jack Valero, also the Opus Dei press officer for NW Europe.

I was flown to Pamplona and privately prescribed libido suppressants for my p*rn addiction after a 30 minute consultation, in which Andrew Curtis was present. Mr Curtis was my spiritual director at the time and a member of the Regional Commission of the UK at the time. He still is. He also is the safeguarding coordinator for the Prelature of Opus Dei in Britain.

I have written often here about the 1980 investigation by Catholic clergy and "The Times" of London, which found Opus Dei psychologically abusive.

One of Mr Valero's main role as press officer for the past several decades has been to conceal bad news from the bishops and the general public. Over the same time, he has seen to it that people like me were kept away from NHS psychological treatment, so that we would stay in Opus Dei as long as possible.

Jack Valero would rather see numeraries and other members of Opus Dei die than treated by professional doctors, with the risk that they might leave Opus Dei.

u/Informal_Farm4064 — 9 days ago

Is Opus Dei more of a comfortable glove or a straitjacket?

In Opus Dei, we were taught that the "norms" i.e. the regular spiritual practices should fit like a glove in one's life. We were told how to relate to Opus Dei by Opus Dei. It was a question of "get with the programme" or "you're in the army now."

But if those of us in or close to Opus Dei took a step back and tuned in to our feelings about Opus Dei, what would they be like? Sometimes visualisations and contrasts can help us to describe how we feel about any relationship. I will try out a few here.

Does the relationship with e.g. Opus Dei feel more like

- a comfortable glove or a straitjacket

- a smoky, acrid space or a clear panorama across the mountains with fresh air

- a babbling brook in a forest glade or a sewer pipe gushing into a murky lake

- a peaceful ocean at sunset or a raging tempest at sea

- a warm embrace with a lover or the grip of an angry parent telling you to pull yourself together

Make up your own and try them out, with any relationship.

You might reflect that the relationship is in part one and in part the other, or something more in the middle, or it used to be one and has turned into the other.

If one does alarm oneself with the truth of a dramatic representation of a relationship, that may be enough work for one day. Hold on to it as a stimulus for making plans to change tack.

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u/Informal_Farm4064 — 10 days ago

Trigger warning: poor relationship with birth relatives

Without going into detail, I have a burning grievance against some of my birth relatives, with whom I reunited a long time ago. The relationship eventually broke down through lack of respect for me. I know they don't see it that way.

For them, they were happy for me to be part of their family on their terms and my "mistake" was to stand up for myself when that burden became intolerable. Since then, my birth mother's husband has shown me real contempt and to be honest, there is now a feud between me and them.

Most people would say - deal with your feelings, move on. But this means accepting the disrespect and I just can't do that. I don't have any bad conscience about my feelings. In fact, I feel peace.

It's not even about forgiveness of them - I have done all that work. It's about self-respect. They also disrespected my son, who I feel has a right to know who his relatives are even if they don't want close contact.

It's a long shot for now but has anyone had any experience of mediation in these circumstances? Even online? I'm trying to find a way through. I would be open to hearing their side of the story.

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u/Informal_Farm4064 — 15 days ago