People don't talk to understand each other anymore and the Modern Cultures is shit.
Edit: This post discusses modern tribalism and binary thinking, and how it slowly kills nuanced discussion by turning every opinion into a forced ideological side-picking game. At some point, people stop thinking altogether and just be socially optimized NPCs who are terrified of independent thought. My main claim: The current cultural climate doesn’t really allow for actual free thinkers.
I hate interacting with people. People are shit in general. Every time I try to talk to someone or be real for a second, they interpret everything I say as a personal attack or an attack on their worldview. I was having this discussion with my friend about something, and instead of even trying to see where I was coming from, he took it incredibly personally. Sounds familiar?
Which brings me to my next point: the culture is shit. People are incredibly self-centered these days and I think the social media is responsible for that. I was born in the 90s and saw the rise of the internet. Back then people at least pretended to care. But modern life is a fucking mental prison. Everything produced now has to fit some predetermined format. The algorithm pushes and rewards controversy, shallow behavior, outrage, and content made in a very specific format, which by itself limits what kind of culture is even allowed to survive. The current system mainly rewards garbage that turns people into shallow dickheads who are chasing likes, virality, and some hollow status game while normal human thought gets buried under piles of shit. Nuance, honesty, and originality doesn't matter and they always lose against tribalism, rhetorical dominance, and outrage. And don't get me started about tribalism.
Everything have to be split into 2 camps. Men vs Women. Artists vs. Coders. Republicans vs Democrats. Liberals vs Conservatives. Ideology x vs. ideology y. This type of thinking itself creates a fallacy. Opinions about certain subjects can only exist between a narrow predefined positions. But the thing is, reality does not operate like a dialogue tree with only two options. Sometimes both """sides""" are missing the point entirely. Sometimes the whole framing itself is wrong. Sometimes the truth exists outside the categories that are being offered. The conversation is controlled not by censorship in the traditional sense, but by conceptual limitation. Certain thoughts feel “unthinkable” not because they were disproven, but because the structure of the conversation never allowed them to emerge in the first place. My point is that binary thinking only allows for a limited range of conclusions, because the positions you’re allowed to hold on a subject become artificially restricted. But the worst part is that this kind of mentality seeps into the real world, and the trend is not changing.
If you’re not with me, you’re against me. If you think x, then apparently you also have to agree with y and z. Binary thinking doesn’t allow people to hold beliefs that contradict their camp’s orthodoxy. And this in turn makes people incredibly hostile toward you even when your intention isn’t to insult anyone. What depressed me the most is, people allways assume the worst about you if you don't align with someone's world view 100%. The premise and meaning of culture and conversation has changed so drastically, you can't have a normal conversation without it turning into a debate where retorical dominance means more than exploring different perspectives. Your opinion does not have any value if it doesn't "win" an argument or go viral. And people ALWAYS seem to assume conversations to be adversial, rather than an attempt to understand each other.
My point is that the current cultural climate doesn’t really allow for actual free thinkers. On top of that it often rewards shitty behavior and values dominance and tribalism over harmony and understanding. I’m fucking tired of all of it. Lately I’ve been thinking about killing myself because of how trapped and disconnected everything and everyone are from each other. This whole thing feels like a god damn mental prison.