When you know it’s a lie
I’m the one with the ex husband currently in rehab and raising our teenage kids full time with my husband, wanted to give an update. The main thing is that my kids are doing well, we (hubby and I) have not discussed details other than their dad is away taking care of his health for an unknown amount of time and we will keep them informed about his availability. My 16 year old called it when she asked if it was his physical or mental health he was having care for and I said both. We asked them both to be honest with us if their dad being away upset either of them or if they had questions or ever needed to talk to not hold back their feelings and come to us any time. We’ve been providing some more social activities for both of them to help them make some new friends and be around kids and family. They also had a visit with their stepmother which was a bit hairy and will be thought about before attempting again.
Their dad apparently is coming home in a few weeks to resume work and start outpatient care per his wife/kids stepmother. I honestly don’t believe he’s going to transition well if he was as bad as explained by his wife prior to going to rehab, but they’re free to make that choice. Originally his counselor was recommending 90 days, now they’re just sending him home after a month? Not my circus. It speaks to a lack of stability with treatment but I’ll happily be wrong and eat crow if he proves me wrong. My only stake here is making sure he’s stable mentally and is sober before initiating supervised visits with our kids. But this plan isn’t passing the sniff test for me and I have to just let it happen.