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I think my husband is cheating but I’m not sure.
Sunday night I was deep cleaning the apartment and I thought it would be nice to help him reorganize his office, he’s been saying he wanted too and the guest bed was still pulled out, he was out with a friend and I wanted to do something nice for him. I’m in active cancer treatment so he’s had to step up a lot. Our sex life has also decreased, obviously. While cleaning in his desk I found hidden condom wrappers and a used female vibrator. I confronted him very calmly (proud of myself, thank you DBT therapy) and he claims that he was using the condoms to fill his lighter with butane because he couldn’t get it to fill and the internet said to use balloons and we don’t have balloons, so condoms was his bright idea. The vibrator apparently came free with a fleshlight he purchased, but it was def used, I know what dry cum looks like.
But all this to say, with a ridiculous story like that I believed him, we talked for a while, and that was that.
Tonight after being gone at chemo all day since 7am (my best friend took me today, everyone’s rotating) he picked me up from a movie and I found female sunglasses in his car.
I’ve texted all our friends and his family. They are no one’s. They are not mine, I don’t wear that shape.
I’m trying not to jump to conclusions but wtf? ANOTHER item that is sus? I just feel like it’s too much now to be just… nothing?
Idk am I crazy? I’m also so emotional because obvs cancer sucks.
Please give me advice 😭

Hi! Has anyone dealt with migraines? I was in the ED Tuesday for migraines, dizziness, shortness of breath, and nausea. My oncology team thinks they want to consult neurology due to me having a history of migraines as a teenager. I had a spinal tap at 16 because I had high brain pressure and they had to drain the fluid in my brain. I haven’t had bad migraines like that since then, almost 10 years.
I’m not sure if maybe my brain pressure could have increased again or if it’s just cancer and chemo suck.
That’s why I’m reaching out to see if anyone has dealt with migraines also? If so, did anything help? Was it chemo/cancer related, or something else?
Thank you!! 🩵🎗️

Warning: talk of sex life
How do you guys deal with resentment? I’m really trying to fight it but it’s been hard this week. I miss being able to go out and hang with my friends. I miss being able to have sex regularly. I miss normalcy. I’m starting to get jealous of my friends and family who can go out and do all these things.
I caught my husband masturbating last night, which usually isn’t problem (we’ve talked about it) but we had just got home from the ER and I had went to bed. I woke up at 5am and he was still up. I went to check on him and the office door was locked. He admitted to it.
I think I’m upset because 1. Im horny too, but don’t really get alone time like that and don’t always have energy for sex. And 2. Instead of laying down with me (I’ve had an especially hard week this week), he chose to lock himself in his office play video games and masturbate.
Again I’m not usually upset about stuff like this and we were pretty active before all of my health stuff got more complicated. And he’s a really amazing guy, this isn’t even really about him. It’s about my resentment and jealousy.
Another example is, I had to leave a party the other night and I was upset. I was texting my best friend and she texted back pretty late saying “sorry I’m really hungover” I’m not mad at all she texted back late, I’m more so jealous she got to have fun at the party and I had to go home because I feel like shit.

I don’t want to feel this way. I’m really trying to work through my emotions but I’ve just been in a bitter mood all week. I hate feeling like this.
I’m sorry if I sound selfish and like a horrible person.
Any advice? Thank you ❤️

Warning: talk of sex life
How do you guys deal with resentment? I’m really trying to fight it but it’s been hard this week. I miss being able to go out and hang with my friends. I miss being able to have sex regularly. I miss normalcy. I’m starting to get jealous of my friends and family who can go out and do all these things.
I caught my husband masturbating last night, which usually isn’t problem (we’ve talked about it) but we had just got home from the ER and I had went to bed. I woke up at 5am and he was still up. I went to check on him and the office door was locked. He admitted to it.
I think I’m upset because 1. Im horny too, but don’t really get alone time like that and don’t always have energy for sex. And 2. Instead of laying down with me (I’ve had an especially hard week this week), he chose to lock himself in his office play video games and masturbate.
Again I’m not usually upset about stuff like this and we were pretty active before all of my health stuff got more complicated. And he’s a really amazing guy, this isn’t even really about him. It’s about my resentment and jealousy.
Another example is, I had to leave a party the other night and I was upset. I was texting my best friend and she texted back pretty late saying “sorry I’m really hungover” I’m not mad at all she texted back late, I’m more so jealous she got to have fun at the party and I had to go home because I feel like shit.

I don’t want to feel this way. I’m really trying to work through my emotions but I’ve just been in a bitter mood all week. I hate feeling like this.
I’m sorry if I sound selfish and like a horrible person.
Any advice? Thank you ❤️