u/ImprovementSure7540

I know so many of the people are blessed with good relationships with their mothers, but this is specifically for all the girls and women who haven't had a good relationship with their moms. I do love her because she is the only family I have, but with each passing day, I am becoming sure that I don't like her as a person at all. I am 26, and even now, putting forward my views/opinions that don't align with hers turns into a full-blown argument with screaming and yelling. She will always rant about her struggles, but undermine my emotions and issues and call them insignificant. I just want someone to hear me out, support me, but no discussion in my household is civil, where 2 adults can discuss things without throwing shade at each other. Also, yes, she doesn't even consider me an adult. She has coddled and infantilised me all my life to a point where I don't know how to exist independently. She will try to control every minor thing, giving instructions on how to do a particular thing "her way". I always used to keep my calm, but lately my temper issues have also been acting up, and I can't control myself. I am at a very difficult juncture in my life in terms of career, and instead of understanding my mindset, she makes everything about herself. She makes me count what all she does for me and how I am an ungrateful kid. I have an important exam coming up, and moving out currently isn't an option.

I just voiced out a thing this morning that she said, which hurt me, which led to a full-blown yelling session which ended with her crying and abusing me. I have always tried to be the best kid. I hold 2 degrees from the top institutions of the country (which, btw, she considers nothing), and this is what I deal with at the end of the day. For all the young girls who think being a good kid gets you rewards, it is absolutely false. For the others, how did you deal with such a situation? She is emotionally cold, distant and unequipped to handle my issues, but I can't break off my relations with her.