Is it weird that I ‘F 20’ have been with my boyfriend ‘M20’ for almost 6 years and I am still getting left out of their family events?
Some background information, my boyfriend has an older half sister (F29) that he talks to not often but still speaks to her on a monthly basis. When she got married (October 2024) my boyfriend and I were about 4 years into our relationship but I did not get an invite as I had just turned 18 and to her I “was still a kid”. His older brother’s girlfriend (F20 at the time) got an invite though and they had only been together for 2 years at the time. Initially that annoyed me but I brushed it off, I let him know that I was upset about it but he said there was nothing that he could do.
Now her baby shower is coming up in May. When they had told us they were pregnant I was so excited for them and congratulating them. She then sent a message today to the group chat: if you guys are coming can you please rsvp on the Facebook event. I hadn’t got any invite to the Facebook event but everyone else did. I have now told my boyfriend I do not want to go as it seems as if she does not want me to be there (even though I haven’t done anything to her). Respectfully it’s her life events and she can invite whoever she wants but you would think that she would be a bit more inclusive especially with your younger brother’s long term partner.
What do you do in this situation?