Hi guys, I'm 18 here. This may be a long story but please any advice is appreciated.
So when I was in highschool (starting from grade 9) I had a new teacher who taught me from gr9-gr11. He was 30, and a really really nice guy. Just seemed like a genuine person.
He always treated me nicer and was gentler with me. Over time we got closer and would talk more. We never had a student teacher relationship more like friends. Now in grade 11, we got super close. im afraid of giving details as i dont want anyone irl to see this. But he would invite me to spend time with him alone in his classroom a lot. At this point we had no student teacher bouandries. He would talk to me about everything. His past. His problems with his wife and not seeing a future with her. Overtime it turned into always complimenting me and touching me a lot, and then more sexual comments.
i cant go into details here, but i think someone found it off that we were always together and reported him. He got in. a lot of trouble. For grade 12 my final year we werent allowed to talk. And even if he saw me he would just look so angry. This broke me. Towards the end near graduatiion he reached out. He said he loved me so much and he forgave me.
We started talking from then and again, it got sexual very soon. Literally during my final week he wanted to meet up and have sex. We did many times. During this he slowly got less nice. few months later, i moved away for uni. We would talk but again he was very hostile and demanding. He would ask me to send videos of myself and also get really mad at me all the time. He would sometimes be so nice to me and sometiems say horrible things.
In short we had a cycle. He would be nice, want sex, get mad, block me, unblock me, say he was sorry, be nice again, rinse and repeat.
A few months ago the same thing happened but he was extra apologetic. and more intense sexually. then again a few weeks later he blocks me on all social media but text. it broke me. no explanation. a few weeks ago he reached out to me. Said he received death threats so he couldnt talk to me. which makes no sense to me, obvious lies, because hes lied about similair things before.
He told me he cannot talk now, but in a couple of years. I asked him what he means and he said bye??
All of this is driving me insane. I am sorry if this all seems overdramatic.