u/Impossible_Win_6394

Description: I’m going through a difficult situation in my relationship and I need advice on whether this relationship is healthy or worth continuing. I feel very anxious and confused about where I stand.

Information:

My boyfriend and I recently agreed to take a short break (a few days) to see if the relationship is worth continuing. We also agreed not to talk to other people during this time.

He initiated the breakup twice in a short period of time:

First time: I ended a call after he insulted me because I felt disrespected. Instead of apologizing, he blocked me everywhere and broke up with me.

Second time: He told me he didn’t like that I wear a burkini (I’m not hijabi, but I dress modestly). He wanted me to change to something more modest, and when I didn’t agree, he broke up with me again.

After the first breakup, I coped poorly and talked to other people, which upset him.

Now during this current break, I’m feeling very anxious and unsure if he will come back or end things permanently.

My feelings: I feel like some of his reasons for breaking up are very sudden or based on disagreements rather than serious issues. At the same time, I recognize I also made mistakes in how I handled the first breakup.

Question: From an outside perspective am i the A and how should I approach this break without making things worse?