Every time I set a financial boundary with my LDR girlfriend 26F it turns into a huge argument. Is she taking advantage or am i stupid? 26M
Been with my girlfriend (26F) for 2+ years, 1 year living together, now 1 year into LDR. I'm 26M. Haven't seen each other in a year.
I send her money every month for her studies and I was already planning an expensive birthday gift on my own initiative. She's also bought me expensive things in the past without me asking, which I appreciate but she sometimes uses that as leverage when she wants something.
Last night she texts asking me to buy her a €200 item. I was watching a movie and said I needed to check my finances first. She immediately went: "you're not making me a priority, you prefer your movie over me." I called her to explain, offered to cover part of it. Her response: "I don't know why you're not into it this time."
This keeps happening. The second I don't immediately say yes, she guilt trips me until I cave.
I know I need to improve a lot on my boyfriend skills, but i am getting tired of her to be honest. I am already working hard and i feel i have to handle a toddler. How to navigate through this?