AITA for not wanting my fiancée to go out drinking with his coworkers?
For some background I (28F) and my fiance (29M) have been together since our senior year of college.
He was a typical college guy and cheated on me that year. We broke up for a little but I thought I was over it and forgave him. We have been together since. It is an old wound and I will admit I can be sensitive and jealous when it comes to other women.
He works with a lot of single women who are our age. I like a lot of them but they can be touchy feely with him and he never does anything to shut it down in the moment.
He works for a non-profit and they have their big annual gala soon. He will be at the gala from 6-10pm. Significant others are not welcome at the gala.
He wants to go out drinking with his coworkers after the event ends. His company is full of big drinkers and it doesn’t help that his direct report (33F) literally homewrecked another coworker’s marriage last year.
He wants me to meet them out when they are done (~10pm), but the idea of waiting around all night for a text that I can go hang out with my fiance feels demeaning to me. His job requires a lot of him outside 9-5 and it’s become draining for me.
He believes if I get upset at him for going out with his coworkers after this gala, that I am manipulating him and stopping him from living his life.
I understand where he is coming from, but I don’t think I would like any partner of mine going out with a group of single coworkers at 10pm after they’ve already been drinking for hours?
Am I being too controlling? Are my concerns valid? Can both be true?
AITA?