So I’ve been in a ldr since sept 2025 , but we’re talking since sept 2024 , I will admit I haven’t been the best ldr partner as I couldn’t even even communicate with her ( such as not texting her the most for 1 week) and I haven’t seen her since November 2025 , it was only a half way meetup just for 4 hours .
At first she would always text me constantly and ft me or call me whenever she could , ofc my dumbass took that for granted .
Since march , but especially since last month I’ve felt the difference of her not putting in the effort she did once but obviously it’s not her fault , she just mirrors me now.
She has 2 guy friends ( it was actually a group with another girl but she doesn’t hang with them no more , their also her coworkers, also they live very close too her , also one of them has known her before we even talked ) I met them as well , they’re good dudes though from what I can tell . She would always hang with them outside of work ( probably still is but she doesn’t tell me as much now as she probably knows I’ll feel a way , though she would always tell me when she was out with them or if they planned on going somewhere ). They been friends for a while but as the time passed they seem to got closer, she always do mention them every time we get on the phone
It obviously messes with me but i don’t even have a right to feel that way as I’m not even the best ldr partner with her .
I had given her a chance to leave me as I know she’s mos definitely emotionally dissatisfied with me, she didn’t leave me and fought for me to stay , I told her it could be attachment and that she didn’t really love me but she still claims too love me , she probably has a hard time doing it as she’s close with my family members, I don’t know though if that’s the case , I given her the chance to leave regardless on how I feel about it because I couldn’t even reach her expectations in a ldr . Since then she just mirrors me but I could feel her energy is not as it was and it’s probably cuz of her guy friends .I asked her It’s too late for me and her response was “not really”. When I told her she can leave me , she took it as I wanted to break up and she went to go tell to one of those guy friends.
Ill admit It will hurt to leave but it seems like they give her happiness more than I could’ve and if that’s the case I would want her to be where she’s really happy, but I feel like she’s hiding something from me , I’m upfront with her but Ik it makes her very uncomfortable to talk about certain topics.
Apart from everything I didn’t do right by her, I put my trust in her but now it seems like I can’t now but its my fault , idk what to do especially since she didn’t want to end end things with me