I have no choice but to warn other women/people about this man. Ladies, if you live in Coventry UK (or anywhere else in the world) please stay far away from him. His name is Zakaria Hirsi (also known as Zak Assasin). He deleted his reddit account right after i exposed his @. I’ve blocked him.
Check out my profile if you missed part 1. This is what he had to say about the whole situation, and it made me so sad :( The one thing left for me now is making sure his family knows who he really is. also warning other sisters/people.
Trigger warning: SA, trauma
I (F,26) was in a talking stage with a guy for a month. We both are somali and live in the west. I live in Scandinavia and he lives in the UK. We met last year in August in London. At the time, I had very low self esteem. Looking back, I feel like I was taken advantage of and got manipulated. He lives in Coventry, UK so message me sisters if you live there so you don’t end up with him.
When we talked I told him that I don’t have much experience with guys. I’ve only had two talking stages before him, and they were just toxic. He took that information and took advantage of me. And the sad thing about all of this is that I only had good intentions. I truly wanted to get to know him with respect and love, and marriage was the end goal. I told him I’m not comfortable with physical touch since we’re not married but he manipulated me into thinking it was normal.
Before we even met he asked me about my bra size couple of times, what kind of underwear I wear and told me he had a sexual dream about me. The night before the date he said “I can touch you tho right, cop a feel,” and I told him a hug was fine.
On the date, he kept crossing my boundaries. He kissed my cheeks multiple times even though I had already said no kissing. He made sexual comments about my body and asked inappropriate questions.
While we were sitting together he put his hands under my clothes and even when I removed his hand and told him to stop he said NO and kept doing it again. At one point he kept moving his hand near my butt, I removed it, and he put it back on the same place repeatedly. I even raised my voice and told him to stop and he got offended instead. He also pressed his body against mine in a sexual way and put his hand under my clothes saying he was “checking for loose skin.”
After the date he was very nasty to me. I remember a phone call a couple of days later where he was rude and kept hanging up on me. He also said that if he’s going to marry me he has to feel my breasts and suggested getting an Airbnb for our next meeting.
3 months after I ended the talking stage I decided to go to therapy because I was struggling mentally, physically and emotionally. That’s when I understood that I had been sexually assaulted. The situation affected me a lot and I lost myself. I would have panic attacks, freeze during the day, sweat and struggle to breathe when I thought about what happened. I even went to the emergency hospital twice because I thought something was wrong with my heart, but it turned out to be chest pain caused by panic attacks.
I feel like forgiving him makes it seem like I minimised what happened and I feel horrible about that. It doesn’t feel fair that he gets to move on with his life so easily without shame and people around him thinking he’s this great guy while I’m still dealing with the impact of what he did. I’m choosing to leave this to Allah and trust that justice will come on the day of judgment. that’s what gives me peace and helps me heal
Trigger warning: SA, trauma
I (F,26) was in a talking stage with a guy for a month. At the time, I had very low self esteem. Looking back, I feel like I was taken advantage of and got manipulated. His username on Reddit is @harry1245638 I’m warning other sisters!
I told him that I don’t have much experience with guys. I’ve only had two talking stages before him, and they were just toxic. He took that information and took advantage of me. The sad thing about all of this is that I only had good intentions. I truly wanted to get to know him with respect and love, and marriage was the end goal. I told him I’m not comfortable with physical touch since we’re not married but he manipulated me into thinking it was normal.
Before we even met he asked me about my bra size couple of times, what kind of underwear I wear and told me he had a sexual dream about me. The night before the date he said “I can touch you tho right, cop a feel,” and I told him a hug was fine.
On the date, he kept crossing my boundaries. He kissed my cheeks multiple times even though I had already said no kissing. He made sexual comments about my body and asked inappropriate questions.
While we were sitting together he put his hands under my clothes and even when I removed his hand and told him to stop he said NO and kept doing it again. At one point he kept moving his hand near my butt, I removed it, and he put it back on the same place repeatedly. I even raised my voice and told him to stop and he got offended instead. He also pressed his body against mine in a sexual way and put his hand under my clothes saying he was “checking for loose skin.”
After the date he was very nasty to me. I remember a phone call a couple of days later where he was rude and kept hanging up on me. He also said that if he’s going to marry me he has to feel my breasts and suggested getting an Airbnb for our next meeting.
3 months after I ended the talking stage I decided to go to therapy because I was struggling mentally, physically and emotionally. That’s when I understood that I had been sexually assaulted. The situation affected me a lot and I lost myself. I would have panic attacks, freeze during the day, sweat and struggle to breathe when I thought about what happened. I even went to the emergency hospital twice because I thought something was wrong with my heart, but it turned out to be chest pain caused by panic attacks.
I feel like forgiving him makes it seem like I minimised what happened and I feel horrible about that. It doesn’t feel fair that he gets to move on with his life so easily without shame and people around him thinking he’s this great guy while I’m still dealing with the impact of what he did. I’m choosing to leave this to Allah and trust that justice will come on the day of judgment. that’s what gives me peace and helps me heal