First of all, I'd like to start by saying this post isn't a targeted witch hunt against any woman who has gotten plastic surgery.
Since the past couple of years, more and more influencers and actresses have come forward to disclose the cosmetic work that they have gotten done in public. While I admire the honesty and transparency, many of them always ends it on a note that it was a "personal choice" making it sound like something that was born out of vacuum and connecting the said personal choice to feminism by saying feminism is all about women making choices. But when did feminism become to support beauty standards perpetuated and imposed upon women by patriarchy.
I understand that a good chunk of women in mainstream content creation and acting spaces only have a limited idea of feminism, intersectionality or nuances and are just parroting whatever is trending. But reducing cutting up your body, making parts of you small and big to appeal to men to just a personal choice and saying its okay to make such choices to young impressionable women is a very dangerous move.
How are we fighting against patriarchy by pandering to the same? When are people going to rebel against this and normalise people existing in the form they are born with? When do women get to be themselves?
I'm someone who lost a good part of my childhood and college to constantly being obsessed with my weight to the point where I have missed out on experiences and opportunities that could have made my life so much different from what it is now. I see the same pattern repeating but 1000x worse in the beauty spaces across social media where this personal choice is pushed onto kids and young women, and it's disheartening. Though there is pressure on men to look a certain way, most of it stops with just gym or a hair transplant but women are conditioned into being bothered about the color of vagina, underarm, hair texture, nose, eyes, lips, boobs, ass, stomach. All of it is either too pigmented, too big, too small, and the list goes on and on. Boys from a young age will get access to opportunities of education and other and can grab them where young girls are pushed into being insecure about their body and nitpick every part of it.
We want women in academia, stem, and arts, etc, everywhere instead of injecting them with this poison of looking a certain way is the way to go. So many children and young people who can become successful, innovators, artists etc slipping away from that future into the holds of depression and self-harm about their natural bodies.
Also, you are allowed to make choices that are not feminist. Nobody can follow any ideology, religion, or school of thought to the T. But what you shouldn't be doing is project every choice you make a "feminist choice" just to feel better about it. There's nothing feminist in plastic surgery, item dances, or sex work. Again, I don't want anyone to jump on them and crucify them for it. Just hate the game and not the player, unless the player is actively pushing these things onto other women as a good thing.
I wish the perils of this "personal choice" get discussed seriously in media. By serious, I mean addressing the actual issue instead of witch hunting women who have gotten anything done. This one "personal choice" is going to influence thousands of "personal choices," and one day, it'll become the norm. Someone existing without pandering to this patriarchal standards will be treated as an outcast.
Ps: By plastic surgery, I meant the unnecessary cosmetic work and not reconstructive surgery.