AITA for refusing to give my sister my college fund after she “borrowed” from everyone else already?
I’m 22M, just graduated college debt-free because my grandparents started a small savings account for me when I was born. It wasn’t a huge amount, but combined with scholarships and working part-time, it covered tuition.
My older sister (29F) has always been the “golden child” in the family. My parents constantly bailed her out financially. Credit card debt? They helped. Missed rent? They helped. She even borrowed money from relatives multiple times and either paid it back late or not at all.
A few months ago she announced she was pregnant with her third child. Her boyfriend isn’t really involved and apparently she was struggling financially again. I genuinely felt bad for her.
Then my parents sat me down and said they wanted me to “help family” by giving my remaining savings to my sister so she could move into a bigger apartment and prepare for the baby.
I told them no.
For context, the money left over wasn’t “extra fun money.” I planned to use it for graduate school and possibly a down payment someday. I’ve worked nonstop since high school. I skipped trips, drove an old car, and worked weekends while my sister openly mocked me for “living like a boring monk.”
After I refused, my sister was pissed. She accused me of caring more about “future imaginary plans” than my actual niece/nephew. Then she posted a vague status online about the whole thing.
Here’s the part that really got me:
A cousin messaged me privately and showed me screenshots where my sister admitted she expected me to cave because I’m “too nice to say no for long.”
Apparently she had already asked two other relatives for money first and got turned down.
Now half the family says I’m selfish but the other half says I’m the only person who’s ever held her accountable.
I do feel guilty because there’s a baby involved, but at the same time I’m tired of being treated like the emergency ATM because I made responsible choices.
AITA?