WIBTA if I break up with my BF over disgusting things he said about his dad?
TLDR: My BF of 3 years called his narcissistic abusive dad the F slur several times, and said “thats why he acts that way” and, “He probably got touched as a little boy, thats why he acts like that”. My BF is straight, he knows that I’m part of LGBT, and have been through SA. WIBTA to break up with him over this?
My BF of almost 3 years was upset when he called me when he got home from work, since he got cut early on his hours today. About 5 minutes after he got home his dad started yelling, being toxic and verbally abusive for genuinely no good reason. My BF got even more upset because of that… which is understandable, but then my BF said some very… absolutely not okay things about his dad. He didn’t say much TO his dad, he mostly just was quiet and did what he could to make his dad calm down. But when he got in his room, still on the phone with me, is when it came out. Behind his dads back, my BF was calling his dad the F slur several times, and “that’s why he is the way he is” “that’s why he acts like a little bitch”… I already wanted to throw up. Then, my BF also said “He probably got touched when he was a little boy that’s why he acts like that” That, to me, is just not okay to say about anyone, ever, for any reason. Am I crazy for wanting to break up over that?? My BF was so extremely upset and he truly deals with so much ridiculous toxicity, and narcissistic abuse from his parents, so I do truly feel for him in that way. I’ve never heard him say anything like this before, but I am rarely around when he’s with his friends…🤔 and I just don’t think I can justify staying with someone who said those things, even though he was originally the victim in the situation. He is straight, I am not. He knows that I don’t tolerate homophobes, etc. He also knows that I’ve been through something traumatic in the past, and he truly knows saying things like that are not okay, but he still said it angrily about his narcissistic, abusive dad in front of me. I immediately hung up after I heard him say the part about SA. He then started profusely apologizing and trying to make things better. He told me he wanted to be able to “chill” with me, and he doesn’t want to be alone. I told him I need space, I need to be alone, and he eventually let me take my space.
...Would I be overreacting/the asshole for breaking up with him over this?