I (30s f) met someone, will call them Eiderdown (30s m) , briefly in November and we stayed in light contact while in our home countries until last week, when they visited me for 5 days.
I tend to need space but let them in more than I usually do, introduced to some friends, felt increasingly happy to sleep in the same bed ect. I did explain my limitations before they came and their respect for those let me relax more.
It is uncertain when we can see each other again, I’m happy to be direct about this in a week or so when we’ve both had time to settle. But I feel an intense urge to plan and arrange flights, times, dates. I think I’m feeling anxious and have a bit of post closeness drop, so I’ve been trying to look after myself.
I don’t want to overwhelm them or pressure them into plans they don’t want, I’ve had some bad experiences with lovebombing, people saying one thing and doing another and so on, and I worry that they might not want to see me again, though this is partly my system being a bit overwhelmed (neurodivergent and high rejection sensitivity)
I guess I’m looking for others experiences with new comet/ maybe more relationships and how they navigated arranging future plans/ dealing with emotional crashing after a meeting, thank you!