u/Important_Talk_4285

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Talked to my husband about opening the marriage

We’ve been together for 10 years (31f & 40m) and I met him when I was young and didn’t have much experience with other men. I’ve always been pretty sexually open and always interested in open relationships but never brought it up bc I know he’s not.

We have a strong relationship and a pretty good sex life. I casually mentioned the idea of an open relationship and he took it personally even though I assured him it’s not personal. After we calmly talked about it I let him know I wouldn’t bring it up again because it upset him but then he started joking about it here and there the next day.

I’m hoping I planted the seed for it to be something he’s interested in bc I really want it but I’m not going to bring it up again or push it.

Has this happened to anyone and their partner eventually came around to the idea? I’m hopeful but not sure he would ever be ok “sharing” me.

** I should’ve worded the post differently I guess but what I’m asking is if every single monogamous couple who has brought this up to their spouse is immediately met with acceptance for the idea? What does opening a monogamous relationship ACTUALLY look like?

I want to emphasize it’s not something I will bring up to him again

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u/Important_Talk_4285 — 1 day ago

I am in fact married and was married at the time. She just kind of looked at me with an off look and changed the subject. This was many years ago but it has stuck with me bc I felt her energy shift and seemed she was avoiding telling me something.

Can someone maybe explain what was going on?

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u/Important_Talk_4285 — 11 days ago