u/Important_Fall_8780

Hi, here`s my first post if anyone wants https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1slytpr/aitah_for_calling_my_sisters_marriage_result_of/

I didn't know many people would come to me for advice, and I am eternally grateful. Although it hasn`t been a week, a lot has gone down.

1. I still haven`t apologized to Sarah, and my father isn`t talking to me because of that. Though my mother understood my perspective and condemned Sarah, my father sees it as a 'mistake in youth'. Though none of my parents are agreeing to Sarah and Matt taking upper portion of our home, because my dad is very strict about finances, but Sarah has already started making renovation plans which includes shutting the entrance to the portion from inside the home and making from the outside for PRIVACY and now lays claims to third storey as well as it is directly over her area and will cut off from ground level.
2. Matt and Sarah have gone down to a campaign to whitewash themselves. They visit relatives, telling their story and even try to manipulate my younger siblings. The funny part is, 2 days ago, while telling such a story, when my maternal aunt was visiting Matt, trying to justify his actions said Sarah pursued him relentlessly and proposed first, so he reciprocated, which was against the whole narrative of Sarah 'If he fell in love with me, it isn`t my fault' and made her look embarrassed.

She came to me to yet again pass sly remarks on me, but this time I told her, Matt doesn`t even respect you enough to not blame you for everything yet you follow him like a puppy, at which she tried to utter some words but stuttered so hard and then left.

3. I talked to Claire, and she told me not to mention anything related to the whole thing, as it is hurtful to her, and she is trying to move on. We did have a heart to heart conversation, and I might visit her next month.

4. Henry has been my rock in this. I felt second hand embarrassment at the whole situation, but it did take a whole mental toll on me. He visits me frequently to console me and help me through it.

Funniest thing out of all of this is that cracks are already showing in Sarah and Matt`s marriage, as my dad wouldn`t let Matt stay over, and he is frustrated with hotel bills. Sarah had a huge argument with my dad, but well, he didn`t budge. Matt blames Sarah for not even getting him a place to sleep, as he is her husband and should be her priority. Sarah, on the other hand, blames Matt because his mother won`t acknowledge the marriage and give Sarah all the gold she made for her daughter-in-law and a place in her house.

Now, yesterday, Sarah came to me to seek my help. I was confused but decided to listen. One of her patients is filing a medical negligence case against her, and she wants me to take the case as she has no money for a lawyer`s retainer. I did feel some sympathy since seeing the facts, she seemed not liable, but I refused to take her case since I am done being under her thumb. She caused a huge wreck in the house with a meltdown about it. My mother yet again asked me to take the case for her sake, while my father asked me to make my own decision. I still haven`t said yes to her, which has made Sarah pass snarky remarks on me about sibling loyalty, etc. I know this is a mess, but a lot of people wanted an update, and my therapist said it might help to journal, so I am here talking it out.