u/ImportantYoung7119

Why do some men publicly shame “modern women” but privately prefer them?

I already know this might trigger people in Morocco, but I just want to share an honest thought and see opinions.

Without bringing religion into it, I genuinely don’t think there is anything wrong with women being free and living their lives how they want. Dress how you want, go out, have male friends, date, explore relationships, live your youth… ana personally I don’t see it as something “bad” by default.

What I find interesting is the double standard.

A lot of men say they prefer “traditional modest girls” and publicly criticize modern women… but privately, they are often attracted to the exact opposite. They follow them, like their posts, DM them, flirt with them, sometimes even try to hook up with them. Donc soyons honnêtes un peu.

And I’m not saying everyone should think the same. If you prefer traditional women for serious relationships, that’s fine. If you prefer modern women for fun or compatibility, that’s also fine. People have different preferences.

But here’s my real point:

Why shame a type of woman you are clearly still interested in privately?

Why act like you hate something you are still consuming or chasing?

That’s where it starts feeling hypocritical to me. 7itach honestly, if you really dislike something, you don’t spend your time looking for it.

Modern relationships also changed a lot. People can meet, date, connect, enjoy experiences, and if it doesn’t work, they move on. No need to turn everything into marriage pressure or social drama.

As long as there is respect and consent between adults, fin المشكل؟

I’m not saying one type is better than the other. I’m just saying stop pretending. Be honest with yourself: you like what you like.

Curious to hear what you think about this, especially the difference between what people who say publicly vs what they actually do privately.

bizzare🤔😅

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u/ImportantYoung7119 — 1 day ago
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I need to say this because I know I’m not the only one who noticed it.

Why do some queer/bi girls suddenly act ashamed or apologetic when they mention having a boyfriend around certain queer spaces or lesbian groups? Like girl… you didn’t commit a crime 😭

The vibe sometimes becomes:
“yeah… I have a bf haha unfortunately 😔”
“but he’s an ally tho!”
“he acts gay sometimes so it’s okay right?”
“ugh I know… a man 💀”

And it’s like they’re waiting for approval or trying to prove they’re still “queer enough.”

You’re bisexual. Being attracted to men does not cancel that out. Dating a man does not erase your identity. Why are some people acting like bi women need to apologize for genuinely liking a guy?

And before people misunderstand me: yes, biphobia and bi-erasure inside queer spaces absolutely exist. A lot of bi women talk about feeling invalidated or less accepted when dating men. That pressure is real.

But sometimes it honestly feels sad watching people downplay their own relationship just to fit a certain queer image online or avoid side-eyes from others. Confidence disappears the second “boyfriend” enters the conversation.

tbh thats why u see some bi women don't identify themselves as bi but instead they call themselves and defence mechanism straight or lesbian just to avoid those awkward situations.. and also makes some queer women who were only into women but at some point the attraction change and they feel like they are into men but they cant admit it bcz ppk around u who knows u they gonna probably look at u in a different way in a negative way if u done that that's why there's some lesbian girls who are secretly bi but its hard for them to say it in public bcz they know how the reaction gonna be 😥

Like baby girl be proud of u being bi stand on that shyt and claim it and also if u have a bf stand up 😭 if you love him then love him proudly. You don’t need to perform queerness for approval from lesbians, queer friends, TikTok, or anyone else.and if u still adahmed just dont date men and avoid them its better for all .

Anyone else notice this online lately or am I just too deep in queer internet discourse.?

bcz i always thoughts that lgbtq+ community its all about freedom and limitless of attraction u can have with no judgment and u can feel wtvr u want and call urself wtvr u want but nahh i have to say its controversial but the community is like the hetero and straight society rules its just its in the opposite way with a little bit of differences and some freedom in some areas but they all judje and they all have rules in some ways....if u stay long enough u gonnna figure out u also have to perform for other ppl to accept u...

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u/ImportantYoung7119 — 10 days ago

Pick the one that describes you best (or comment your own term if I missed it):

Bisexual

Biromantic bisexual

Heteroromantic bisexual

Homoromantic bisexual

Aromantic bisexual

Demiromantic bisexual

Demisexual bisexual

Gray-bisexual / graysexual bisexual

Bicurious / questioning

Closeted bisexual

Openly bisexual

Bisexual leaning more toward men

Bisexual leaning more toward women

Bisexual with no preference

Mostly straight bisexual

Mostly gay bisexual

Fluid bisexual

“Bi-cycle” bisexual 😭

And if there’s another bi term or label you use that I didn’t mention, drop it in the comments.

Btw I’m a heteroromantic bi 🙏

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u/ImportantYoung7119 — 14 days ago