so, I love my ma, but she can be a little slow on the uptake for a lot of my Feelings. We don't talk super much about my sexuality, only because I think that, for as much as my mom accepts it, she's also old and a bit guarded about the concept. Which is fine, I suppose. Its something I've grown to accept.
Except, today, we were couch shopping just her and I, and as I'm spreading myself across a couch to check the napability, my mom broadly announces "You know, I think you're the smallest butch I've ever seen. You're like- a pocket butch" (in reference to me being all of 4'9) and it just...took me by surprise? She'd never called me butch before, or at least not with any positive regard. I laughed and rolled my eyes, and flexed my barely muscled chicken wing arms, and it was...nice