u/Important-Shape-6987

Me 19f and my boyfriend 19m have been together for about 1.5 years and we have lived together for the last 9 months. things are generally pretty good between us, we spend time together, we do activities together we talk and just have fun with each other. but the past month or 2 intimacy has felt like we aren't that connected, it feels more like an action we have to do and that it's not because we want to. i feel like he puts more emphasis on pleasuring me because he feels guilty if i don’t finish and he does but i don’t know how to make it more pleasurable for him, i've tried to ask what he likes and he doesn't tell me as much as i tell him. we've started exploring more stuff like anal and we're working towards doing it but we haven't had like really good sex in a while. i need very direct confirmation and declaration of feelings and whatnot so i always ask him how it was after we have sex and tonight it was below average and lately it has more frequently been average and not as often above average or really good. i asked him what made it not as good and he didn’t tell me and I’m not sure what exactly other than us not feeling as connected. i feel like it's not as intense as it used to be and it's not as emotionally driven, it's more of an action. we've tried different positions and exploring different things that i like but the only thing he's wanted to explore is anal and other than that he hasn't told me anything he wants. what can i do to feel more connected? I’m very awkward talking about sex but i do my best to talk about it and tell him what I’m thinking and feeling but I’m not sure what to do right now. i want to feel that passion again and i know he does too but we're kind of stuck right now it feels like. any advice on how we can feel more connected?