u/Important-Cream-3176

so as the title says, my SO (as I just found out from SD [8] accidentally saying in front of me to SO) is now going to reward $50 to my SD if she stops getting in trouble at school. I didn't know THIS is how he was dealing with the behaviour, and to me I just can't believe it

I think he has reached a point of desperation with her ADHD. she finally saw a psychologist today who she will see regularly. And I TRULY am trying to see his point of view. but imo I think he doesn't know what else he can do to avoid having her take medication.

I have not gotten to talk about it to him yet. but SD has gotten a mixed bag of 8 detentions (after school and recess), referrals, notes sent home. This is either due to swearing or screaming at other children, giving other children friction burns when she's mad at them, attempting to damage school property by clogging a sink with paper towels solely because another child told her to and she asked no questions and just did it.

Is this not just operant conditioning? we are already strapped for cash each month. so now he is going to have less money and be more stressed about money because instead of just being able to be taught right from wrong (which he does, it's in one ear out the other with her), she will just behave well as long as he pays her money

I think I am just in awe because with my son's autism I have never once thought bribery would every be effective. SD is clearly. It just seems...so..dumb. and now it's like SD has more control of the house AND our finances because if he doesn't pay her money to act well for x amount of time, then what? We just have to put up with it?

Again, I truly am thinking that this is out of desperation more than anything but I just am baffled

this is my first time posting in this group

To preface we moved into our 100yr old house in October. You can imagine our house is VERY creaky, and for awhile I actually thought we were hearing someone take random steps upstairs when no one had been up there. until I was in our upstairs bathroom showering one night, and realized it's actually bricks/the flute falling down from our chimney. ha (I don't even want to think of the cost of this).

I googled and looked through previous police scanner reports, news articles, and as far as I can tell there has not been anyone who died in our house or at least what I can tell from the last 5 owners

I have been waking up randomly and this never really happened when I lived at my parents or at my previous apartment. I'd wake up to go pee every once in awhile if I forgot to go to go before I went to sleep, or to adjust my position because I was in pain (I have a lot of chronic health conditions) but now it's maybe a couple times a week I wake up in the middle of the night, 12am or 3:33am and im not in pain, I don't have to pee, but something has woke me up.

this IS my first time living in a house with gas, so even though I have a previous experience I'm with ghosts, I'm trying to think of reasonable explanations as well. We have carbon monoxide detectors everywhere, I test them frequently and there is a slight gas leak from a rusty pipe in our basement. But when I bring the carbon monoxide detector right up against the leak it doesn't sense it at all because it is so faint. so we will have to replace it or we were told we could putty it but otherwise I still don't feel like that's the issue

I don't think that possible carbon monoxide poisioning is what is going on though. My kids, fiancé and I are not having more health issues or forgetfulness (3 of us have ADHD) than usual. And it seems to only happen to me though my fiancé has had some moments where he gets randomly creeped out. But I will have moments where now, I am almost fully asleep. literally on the edge of consciousness. And all of a sudden I will head someone's muffled talking, or creaking that doesn't sound like it could be a small animal and not my kids. like last night, I was in the same situation. Woke up at 3:33am, not sure why and very confused. I stayed up maybe an hour and finally started drifting off to sleep. Then as I'm almost unconscious I hear 3 loud knocks upstairs, following by a loud creaking that sounded like someone wiggling back and forth on the creaky steps upstairs. a couple minutes later, I felt pressure on my chest, almost like that of a cat laying on top of me but we don't have any pets. except I put my hand (and my head, I was scared to look lol) under the blanket, and the pressure I thought was a cat, actually felt like a hand that was larger than mine. my fiancé was laying in bed beside me asleep but facing the opposite direction and it felt like the hand was coming from above me like I was being stood over

I don't know what to do about this. I would like to believe my house is NOT haunted because I am very afraid of ghosts. I am the type of person who loves horror movies but ghosts freak me out too much and I am way too open to suggestion after seeing ghost movies and it will make me on edge for a month after.

what should I do? I saged the house when we moved in, I try to make simmer pots and burn protection candles every now and again but I feel like I need to do something different. The only other time I experienced something this creepy was when I was a child and even then the presence never touched me