u/ImpatientlyBurning

I saw a post on another sub but it was too white-centric. Thought it would be better to ask a question here.

How do you deal with the automatic assumption that you are wrong/dangerous/guilty/incompetent/suspicious? (Usually by the same people who are those things.)

Even if you have all the receipts, people will choose not to believe you because you are from a different background than them. If it comes out of white mouths...suddenly it becomes "believable".

To hear you means to humanize you and they do not want to do that.

They are worse racists than the overt and vocal ones. Most of what they do is fake and conditional. If you act in a way they do not like, their "support" vanishes and is replaced by open hatred. They see us as pets and tools, not people with free will.

One of their biggest problems is thinking they are not racist. Savior complex is the neighbor of abuse. No one has tone checked or scolded me more than white leftists. They get so angry when they assume they have been criticized by those they want to lord over (us).

"Are you implying...?" or "I think what you mean to say..." or feeling the need to argue or "dominate" POC instead of...listening.

So much gaslighting.

Too many times, they try to speak for me or put words in my mouth.

No, class is not more important than race.

That is all.

(Physical and psychological violence)

I left a violent place to go somewhere I thought would be better. It has another form of violence. More insidious and covert. The violence where I was from was at least more open and honest.

There are too many people (white and self hating whiteworshipping notwhite) who do not work on themselves and need to drag you down with them. To anyone reading this, do not react.

Had to deal with this at work, in public, in different social situations. Online and offline spaces.

This world is full of hateful people who want you dead. They project their problems onto you to avoid working on themselves. When they bother you, they want you to react and give them energy so they feel important (they are not). Or they push you to react negatively so they can justify killing you or blaming you.

Push forward and do what you need to do to succeed.

You do not owe anyone energy or a reaction. Hopefully someone reading this will realize you need to push down your ego. You do not actually have to do anything with people who are emotionally beneath you and feel powerful from abusing others.

Walk away if you can because they are barely a background character. It is not your fault that they chose to abuse you. They do not see you. You do not owe anyone understanding, forgiveness, or your energy. Just do not make the mistake I made by losing so much time to self blame.

There was a better version of this in my head when I was thinking of it earlier.

Yes, they are so “empathetic” when they yell at or silence people who are not white for not playing along with their narrative.

Yes, they are so “empathetic” when they ignore us and talk over us (while stealing from us).

Yes, they are so “empathetic” with their passive aggression and micro aggressions.

Yes, they are so “empathetic” when they yell and snap at us for disagreeing and treating us like objects.

Yes, they are so “empathetic” when they pretend to care about our causes but never treat us like actual people.

Yes, they are so "empathetic" when they go to protests to post on TikTok for their friends but never want to change things in a real way. (Only the image matters, they do not want to lose privilege)

Yes, they are so “empathetic” when they want you to make your culture palatable to them so they can whitewash it.

Yes, they are so “empathetic” when they get angry seeing minorities SMILING in public.

Even the most "empathetic" white leftist is afraid of being treated how they and their people treat not white people. They do not want to lose their privilege. Their "superiority" is a lie.

Our lives and bodies are a game to them. "Empathetic" my ass with their creepy lipless grins. What they have is not “empathy”, it is narcissism mixed with paternalism. I have had all of these happen to me. When I call out racist behaviors, I get called "racist" or "obsessed" with them. They obsess over us. I do not want to be easy to consume for their comfort. I would die first.